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Shall I tell him ?

User Profile: dreamingworlds
dreamingworlds January 17th, 2021

I'm a little afraid. I'm 23 and never slept with anyone. For me it's not that much of a big deal. It just never happened. I had relationships before, one quite long but there he wanted to wait until marriage and that was fine with me and as that broke off i dated a bit but i just never felt comfortable with anyone or even actually had feelings for someone to be honest, It takes a while for me and everyone was always super fast so i always decided against it and walked away. I'm okay with it. But it seems like around me it isn't very normal so I never even told my friends about it. I just made up stories or just took myself away from those conversations, just listening. Now there is this guy that I really like. I've been liking him for quite a while now, 3 years maybe ?. Apparently when I catch feelings i cannot really let go. Anyway it's been quite something the past year, but nothing really more than cuddling. I used to wonder what that is in between us and it kind of drove me crazy inside but we recently kind of talked about it and well he's just into sex for now as he doesn't want a relationship. For me it's fine. I mean we're kind of friends, talk a lot and it's just super easy to be around him, he makes me feek comfortable and he is super genuine and kind. He recently asked me if i ever considered sleeping with him and i really want to but i'm a virgin. And he is 30. I don't want him to scare off. As if it's a responsibility or something. It's not a big deal for me but i feel like the lack of experience on my side might be unattractive to him. We meet again next time and i'm really unsure whether to tell him or not. But if I don't he might notice it anyway or might think i'm bad and that would make me feel weird i think. But i'm not sure if it might scare him away and he might think i'm weird. and we do work in the same company but different departments and then it might turn weird there. Does anyone have experience with a similar situation? Is it something to worry about ? So the issue is just really whether to tell him or not. I'm sure about anything else..

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User Profile: blueJet9539
blueJet9539 January 17th, 2021

I believe honestly is the best policy especially when sex is involved anytime you choose to have sex with someone should have a certain amount of serious thought given to it I believe you should be honest with him about it and have an actual conversation about it and see where it goes

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User Profile: dreamingworlds
dreamingworlds OP January 17th, 2021

Thank you for replying to this.I take it in. I guess it's kind of hard to start that conversation without sounding awkward

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User Profile: blueJet9539
blueJet9539 January 17th, 2021

Well from how you described him I don't think it would be as bad a conversation I'm sure your imagining just be honest. You'll never know how he'll react until you tell him

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User Profile: Kenzy23
Kenzy23 January 18th, 2021

Hi if the topics comes up again tell him the honest answer. I’m still a virgin too and it’s not a big deal. He’s not a virgin himself so if he really wanted to wait on you he could it’s much more other things to explore out her than sex

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User Profile: dreamingworlds
dreamingworlds OP January 18th, 2021

@Kenzy23 Thank you for your words. yes I guess being honest is always the best. I guess just the uncertainty how he reacts is what makes me feel afraid.

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