To The Ex Who Made Me Feel I Was Never Enough
"You always made feel like I was never enough. You not only made me feel that way, you told me that too. You made me feel like you were too good for me and as if I was "lucky" to have you. You started off so perfect. You told me everything I wanted to hear, from you're the most beautiful girl in the world to talking about a future. After a while, that all went away. You started to control me, from the music I listened to to the social media sites I was"allowed" to have.
You made me feel like I had nobody, but you. You would never want me around my friends. You never wanted me around my family. You always wanted me confined to you and the worst part is I thought it was okay.
You were so controlling. You wouldn't allow me to have Instagram because you thought it was a gateway to cheating. You wouldn't let me listen to certain genres of music for the simple fact as you didn't like that. You wanted all my passwords, locations, schedules and everything.
You cheated, not once, not twice, but several times. Every time you were confronted on this, you lied. I was in surgery and you were in the waiting room on Tinder cheating on me. You caused so many trust issues, but every time I said something you would always turn it around on me. You would always blame “my attitude" as to why you had to cheat.
You were so mean to me. From constantly telling me to lose weight to pointing out small flaws, it was constant. You didn't tell me happy birthday for two years, you didn't come to my birthday dinner, and Valentine's Day you didn't even take me out or get me anything.
You just never cared.
I thought you were the best thing for me, but you weren't. Leaving you was the hardest and best thing I ever did. What I thought was going to be the death of me was my saving grace."
*To anyone that feels as though they are in a relationship like this, it is not worth it. I know you may feel that they are the most perfect person in the world, but anyone who treats you this way is not worth your time and energy. This goes for both men and women too! Anyone can be abusive and it can be so hard to leave the relationship, but make sure you do and that you are safe. Your safety and mental health matter more than anything else. There is someone out there that will treat you the way that you deserved and I promise you that this isn't the way you should be treated. Here is the National Domestic Violence Hotline and The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Please feel free to share your story, if comfortable, below!*
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@fruityPond7887
thanks for this it makes some very good points and i am sure most things here will strike a chord with many....
My Story:
i thought he was great ......... he said nice things ............did not see how few until looking back..... we lived our lives .........had many missed opportunities for vacations and items but he told us we should work so hard and "someday" we would travel .... "someday" we would do things .... but the goal post keeps moving.... and now his health which he never took seriously will not allow traveling or fun things.
I tried to inspire him to lose weight and try new things instead of just sitting on a couch ...........always said something mean like i was the one who needed to lose weight....... I was not enough..... I was boring........ then as we tried he brought me HIS favorite things telling me that they are MY favorites .... he cannot tell me anything about me ........ literally nothing .....
i was lonely even with him right there............ i started just talking to a person who makes me feel like i am the most beautiful woman in the world ....... finds me funny and wants to do things all the time..... so i looked back .... and realize my spouse has NEVER made me feel more then a wallflower that should just be happy and accept watching tv and waiting to die ... ALONE with him 6 feet away.
I am leaving NOW and he does not know why it is a mystery to him ..........
@toughTiger6481 I am so proud of you for deciding to leave now! It is never too late and you are doing what's best for you! Thank you for sharing your story. You deserve the world and nothing less! Be with someone who makes you happy and does things to make the relationship the best it can be. You are amazing!! ❤️
my best friend and I helped each other out of this type of relationships. We were there for each other every night that our significant others we off doing God knows what.
Now she’s in another relationship and we are reading those little signs. Those red flags. We’re trying to get her out. Little signs turn to big problems if they aren’t addressed properly and timely. 💜
@Parker64 I am so glad that you guys have each other because when you are in a relationship like that, it's important to have someone to help keep reality in check. You both are incredible and I am happy you both got out of those relationships. I hope she gets out of the one she is in now and you both find people that are good to you because you both deserve it. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for your kind words! We actually met online and helped each other over text and phone. We became best friends and known each other now for 5 years. I helped name her son. That was amazing.
anyway. It really was helpful to have each other. I don’t think either of us could have done it if we didn’t have each other. Even though she was just a stranger online at the time, we were still able to be vulnerable with each other and support/ offer advice. She’s my best friend. 💜
@Parker64 That's amazing that you two are such a big part of each other's lives! 😊 Having a friend like that is a once-in-a-lifetime relationship and I know how special she must be to you! Cherish each other always ❤️