What is wrong with me?
So I’ve been single for about 6 years now. I used to be really popular and talk to a lot of people. But at the end of high school I thought I had the girl of my dreams. So I cut off contact with a lot of the girls who liked me and that I could’ve potentially been something with. About 2 years later I didn’t talk to her anymore and I was alone. And it’s been that way ever since. I’ve been trying but nothing ever seems to workout. No one ever seems interested in me. I just really don’t know what’s so wrong with me. I wanna know what I can improve about myself so maybe people will like me more. I’ve been lonely for so long. And I really haven’t felt good in a long time. And I don’t know how to change that.
I don't quite have the same story but Ive been alone for a long time. I've always been known to mess things up wether I get clingy or obsessive or maybe just to intense.. Ive tried it all being nice being rude being whatever they want. But even if somebody did want me I never truly felt happy. I always get the feeling nobody is meant for me. So I decided I was done. It's been a year now since I haven't dated and well I'm proud and to be honest I'm to scared to let anyone in again.. I'm sorry you lost contact and I'm sorry it didn't end up the way you wanted, but maybe sometimes people aren't the solution. I'm sorry if I'm not good or helping. It's been a long time since I've had a "friend" so I don't know how to connect with people. I don't know why I joined this app people always told me I needed help. Whether insult or friendly. But yea I do hope you find your solution. Have a good day or night.
Don’t be scared to open up. Also don’t give up just go at ur own pace.
It’s totally not rude. It’s helpful. Sometimes people aren’t the answer. And I’m glad you’ve found comfort in yourself. I just haven’t been able to do that for myself. I don’t like myself. I actually really hate myself. And I don’t really know how I can change that about myself
You could stop worrying about others liking you and just be yourself. My husband is honestly a asshole does some gross stuff but I wouldn’t change it. There’s someone for you out there but you can’t click a magic button and it appears. I lived most my life on the east coast and my husband never lived outside where he grew up. I got tired of the same shit and I was heart broken when I decided to leave the east coast. No matter what I couldn’t fill the void it was empty. After I left I realized no one knows me I can be who I want to be no one judging. I am a shut in. I went online and chatted with people that was me socializing. I met a few people they ended up hurting me but I also spoke to my know husband. He was my friend through everything off and on. One day we both got tired of looking. We laid out what we both expect and want in a relationship. I took a greyhound and we got a house in a week and married that following weekend. It’s been 7yrs. Don’t give up but also don’t limit yourself and don’t change. Trust me it’s amazing feeling knowing my husband can be himself
I’m really glad that you found someone and it’s worked out for you that’s great. Maybe that is the answer. Full disclosure I live in the Midwest and I don’t think I fit in here. I’ve wanted to leave since I was a kid but it’s not an option for me. So I have to deal with what I have here. And it just hasn’t worked for me. I know I’m probably being impatient and I should just wait. But I don’t know if I can keep going like this for much longer
If you don’t mind why can’t you? Your job? Well start looking where your thinking of, save some money and get a place covered. When I left the east coast I had nothing just enough for a ticket. Sometimes you just have to do it even if you have to stay a shelter at first. It’s a start. You have the want to go and you have the need but you just need to do. You can achieve your goals. I didn’t fit in anywhere before I came here. Is it worth a chance to you
It’s definitely worth the chance. I just have too many ties here. I work with my dad. He’s extremely sickly and can’t do his construction job alone. I need to stay here to help him. I need to stay here to help my autistic brother get around and try and get him introduced to society. It’s just not an option for me. Trust me. If it was up to me. I’d be on the first flight out of here. There’s just bigger things then me I have to worry about
Hrmm well when I feel stuck I do that but now I can’t do that so instead I know I sound stupid but I love history and cultures so I watch a channel about different places and the culture as well as food, I try to then cook the food and just get away from reality a little. I make badass Mongolian chicken lmao. Other ways is to take breaks when home go to your room shut off everything and put on some headphones not pods I mean the comfy headphones. Listen to some music depending on my mood I can be listening to music from all sorts of genre. Lately oldies and I just zone into them
Love will come when it’s the right time for it to come. Don’t rush things slowly but surely you will find someone who you will connect on a whole new level and build a relationship with. For now focus on yourself, do things you enjoy. Find yourself once again and love will surely come your way.
