Words Hurt

Hi guys,

I’m having trouble with how my husband speaks to me when we are in a disagreement or argument. Yesterday he picked on everything I did wrong and pointed it out - from saying “I will do it after I put the food away” when he asked me to do something to dropping water on the floor and not cleaning it up. I am not feeling the best and used all my energy to cook and clean with him. Lastly, I didn’t put a garbage bag in the bin and he pointed it out - I said it was his responsibility to put the bag in the bin since he takes out the garbage. He disagrees and says I should do it if I don’t see a bag - which I agreed to and out of laziness I don’t. As I was trying to get him to see how it’s part of his duties, he gets irritated at me and says I am wrong and I don’t listen. I didn’t ask in the best way for him to make it part of his duties, then he got so angry at me - raises his voice, calls me stupid, tells me I am a piece of sh*t amongst other things including how he hates my guts. He’s already called me a c*nt earlier in the week.

He’s so angry at me - he says for 6 years I have never changed and I never listen. He doesn’t want to talk to me because of how I respond back. He says I should just leave. I am so emotionally tired - for one month he treats me this way. When we went to visit family he was being all nice and friendly as a show to them, but when we are back at home it’s the same.

I don’t know what to do - he knows how much those words bother him. Every time I bring it up he says he knows and it’s my fault that I pushed him there. I feel so stuck and sad - it’s getting hard for me to want to keep going with my routine life.