how do i deal with my own insecurities in a relationship
last december my semi long distance girlfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me because i wasn't meeting her expectations and i ended up causing her to be anxious about to our relationship. we broke up for about a month and that entire month i reevaluated my actions and way of thinking throughout the relationship and tried to win her back which ended up working and things have been amazing ever since. it's as if we fell in love all over again. but now i'm going through a period of depression and anxiety because i'm so burnt out of school and covid . my lack of ability to see her and any of my friends has surfaced a lot of insecurities and issues with my self worth. i often feel as if i'm constantly trying to win her back and that any mistake i make will lead to her breaking up with me. i know it's irrational and i know it's unfair to her for me to think that way but i just don't know how to escape the fear of her leaving me again. and i often feel like i love her more than she'll ever love me which i know isn't true. she's a student at a prestigious university and i understand that she has commitments and a social life but i end up taking things personally whenever we can't talk about things. how do i address this?
I would take it one day at a time. Know that she has chosen to be with you again. Thats huge! Not everyone gets a second chance! I also think its great you have reflected on yourself and what you could do better. Now I would just try and I know its hard. But try to focus on yourself when she is busy and treat her well. We can only control the outcome of things so much. The rest we have to just let time tell that story. Talk with her not constantly but from time to time to get that reassurance. But know that you can’t control if she stays or leaves again. You can only do your best.
