one-sided
hello, i’m in a relationship of 7 months and i truly love my girlfriend. although we’ve had a bit of problems with some things shes done (such as going to her exs sleepover thing and wearing his shirt, and lying to me numerous times about things she’s done and made me feel special for feeling like they were a first time thing with me) i’ve communicated to her about this in so many ways but everytime i do she either just tries to get me better in that moment and moves on and acts like it’s minimal or she breaks down and either doesnt talk to me or turns the conversation into being about her self hatred and how all she does is hurt me and she sucks but my feelings never get true closure. she knows all of this but claims she doesn’t know what to do. she always looks for easy temporary solutions and never looks at the true solutions that will fix this. i don’t want her to change but i don’t know what to do and i’ve tried everything.
It seems like you're the only one trying. Leave her.
ah i just love her so so deeply and i know she loves me too and she’s trying but she only ever tries to make me feel better in the moment instead of changing long term. a lot has hurt me and every-time i think we are getting better something new happens or i uncover another lie she’s told and she keeps saying it was to protect me and that she’s sorry and she won’t again but i can’t trust her much anymore. i want to fix it and get better but she doesn’t seem to be willing to put much effort into it
I feel that you are communicating just fine. But she is really confused or wants to have it all. Always give urself first priority and let her know that. After 12 years I’m trying to gather the courage to walk out. I hope you have the courage to do what’s best for you. If it’s like this now not much wil change in the future