Being in a relationship with someone with E.D

Hi there, intelligentBeach1668;

I'm sorry to hear you are frustrated by what you are having to go through, and believe me, I understand how frustrating this can be. Intimacy is such an important part of a relationship, and it can definitely cause someone to feel disconnected when their need for intimacy isn't being met.

The first thing I would like to say is this:talk to your partner about how you are feeling. I cannot stress this enough. You didn't mention whether you've done this already, but even if you have,do it again.That being said, I would like to emphasize that there is a right way and a wrong way to go about doing this. The first thing to understand is that erectile dysfunction can be extremely crushing to man's ego. He knows there's a problem. He's probably trying to avoid dealing with it because of how damaging it is to his self-esteem. You berating him about it will be the opposite of helpful. Sit him down at a time when he is free of stress and the conversation should be tailored more toward your feelings as opposed to his inability to....rise to the occasion.

"[Insert pet name here], I really wanted to talk to you about something that's been on my mind. I just feel like lately there is a bit of a disconnect between us physically. I know that maybe you are worried or concerned about being unable to have sex, but it's not as big of a deal as it may seem. It is actually a pretty normal thing for a guy to go through. I was thinking more about how maybe instead of sex, we could try just building a little more intimacy. I need to feel your touch to feel that amazing connection we have. Maybe we could try a few fun things like swapping back massages or a nice warm bath together?"

There are a few things to note. The first is that erectile dysfunction is actually more often than not amental impediment;meaning that it is often the case that men who are otherwise perfectly healthy get this problem because of psychological pressure from something. It's quite common for men to feel so pressured to perform that they fall short, and this only strengthens the psychological hold on the man. Try to be understanding and not draw attention to the physical issue itself, but rather, focus on building physical intimacy in other ways. You may find that this actually turns out to be a cure.

The other things is that evenif this is a physical problem, being disappointed in him for it is still going to cause the psychological harm noted above, and make recovery much more difficult. You will find that if you take the pressure off having sex, and focus more on building physical intimacy in other ways, he feels less inclined to avoid intimate situations altogether because his ego isn't being hammered down. Once he begins to enjoy physical intimacy with you in other ways and becomes more comfortable with the situation, he will be more inclined to open up to either you or possibly a doctor, and start being comfortable enough to ask for help.

I hope this helps, and I hope you can both trust in your relationship to support each other during this trying time!