Cant stop myself messaging strangers. Anyone got experience with this?
Hi everyone. So about once a week, I reach out to strangers online (mostly men) and talk with them about sexual things, usually with them and me finishing. During the calls/messages it feels ok but after, I feel disgusting and hate myself. Outside of this I closest identify to panromatic, or so I thought. Does anyone have any experience with something like this? I hate myself for doing it but I keep doing it and occasionally I’ve put myself in bad positions because of it. Should I be getting therapy? I’m so ashamed to even talk about it.
@adaptableLand64 therapy has helped me a lot and talking to men about that could lead you down a negative path i used to do that and I stopped since their strangers and could take advantage of you and use you etc.
@adaptableLand64 You are allowed to be sexual it whatever ways you choose as long as everybody is a consenting adult, and you don't have to feel ashamed of that. Definitely be safe though and set boundaries that feel comfortable for you, like avoiding sharing personal info, etc. I am not sure your situation, but maybe reflect on your feelings around it and whether this can be a healthy "kink" outlet or if there is some negative motivator, like doing when you are depressed? Would you feel better to have a casual partner or "friend with benefits" you could see in person to meet this type of need?
I do it, your not alone
SAME. I unfortunately do this too 😔 I feel terrible about myself usually. Actually sometimes I scare myself mid convo. Yeah definitely feel that
I don’t have much to contribute at the moment, but I just wanted you to know I can relate. I do it too. Sometimes it feels like a fun, sexy outlet, and sometimes I really don’t like myself for it. Still trying to figure out what I want to do about it.
