No Sex Drive
I have been with my boyfriend for about three years. We have lived together for about two years. At this point in our relationship I have no desire to have sex with him. I am not sure if it is because of underlying problems in our relationship (lies, talking to other women, and general relationship issues) or if it is my self esteem/ depression/ anxiety or if it is the unsatisfying nature of the act itself.
What should I do?
@MEMNV I am not an expert, but it seems like it's going to be difficult to untangle those five possible reasons for your lack of desire: the relationship, your self esteem, depression, anxiety, and lack of satisfaction.
Making sense of complex situations like that is the kind of thing good therapists do. (Bad therapists just suggest endless quick fixes.)
I'm wondering if you maybe have an idea about which one of the five issues is the most fundamental. I mean, do you think one of the five issues could be causing all of the others? Is it like you could fix that one thing and everything else would be OK? Or is it really all tangled together and confusing?
Charlie
