No attraction
I've been married for 18 years. I have always dealt with depression and had been taking medicine for that really zapped my desire. My husband was very loving, patient, and understanding through all of this.for a couple years we only had sex every 6 months or so. I had my Dr. change my medicine and now I really want sex. Problem is Im not enjoying sex with my husband. Im never satisfied (even after orgasm) . I just feel disappointed. I find myself wishing he was bigger, but never felt this way before (maybe it's from having 5 kids?).
Also, when I look at him I don't feel the love I have once felt. I'm not physically attracted to him. This all pains me so. Not sure what to do.
I don't know how to tell him how I feel without hurting him.
@passionateLemon5863
Hi Lemon!
please get in touch with one of our great listeners, so I or someone can give you the feedback, and support you need on this matter. I am so sorry that you are going through this struggle, and i cant imagine how hard that could be. I hope you find the answers you are looking for my dear, any of us would also be happy to listen to you and help you through the struggle you are having with your husband regarding, sexual feelings, love, and attraction.
*Feel better*
@passionateLemon5863
I do not think we can resolve these items without some hurt feelings and the longer you put off the "talk" the worse it will be....
i prolonged because he "did not learn how to talk about some things" again sounds like a easy out for spouse....same goes with culture excuses as well....
I tried total honesty was very painful i think but he takes a while for things to sink in ..... i am truely sure that the bitterness and resent will make my spouse unattractive from now on....
I do not know how to change that ... if anyone figures that out send me a note....