Sex feels like a chore
Lately sex with my husband feels like a chore. I love him and am very attracted to him but it feels like it's the same thing over and over and I try to get it over with as soon as I can. I still have a libido but often think there is something else I would rather do. He often wants to have sex right before bed when I'm tired and when there was an hour or two free time before hand. He also likes to say certain things in bed and have me talk back when I just want him to shut up. Maybe it's because I'm going back to school and stressed or maybe things just feel too routine. I feel bad for feeling this way so I haven't told him yet. I don't know what to do.
It's normal to feel like this sometimes, particularly in long-term relationship. I know it must be very hard for you to open up about it, but dialogue can really work wonders in these cases, if both partners have the will to find a common ground and make things better for both. There's no reason for you to feel guilty or bad about these sensations, they're very common, and it doesn't mean you love him any less, surely he will realize this! If he cares about your relationship, he will understand and try to find a balance with you, and work on your sexual life to make it more fulfilling for you as well. There are many things you might try and work on, but you'll have to do it together. If you are very open with him, and you talk about it kindly but honestly, things can really get better for you. You've been through a lot together, you can deal with it too, and it can turn out really well!
