Support bfs kink but what about me??
Without a lot of detail or backstory.. My guy and I have been together for 3 years. Hes into tranny porn and has been with one which I encouraged. We look at the porn together i dont know if he looks at regular porn. We have a strap on and used it once so far (I was not that great lol).. so Im doing my best to be into his stuff but we have attempted sex once in 3 months. Hes always grabbing my boobs, butt and cuddly.. but no passion. Even when I say I am horny, nothing. It has never been about what I want. He might watch too much porn. Ive told him if he isnt attracted to me he should let me know and I support what he wants. He sucks at talking about what he wants and likes and Im running out of patience and it hurts to think Im being strung along. We are in our late twenties and I know I can find a man that wants me, Im not unattractive. I dont want to live a life with no sex. I have a high sex drive. This is crazy.. Im going to snap and dont want to internalize this.
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@FreshStartnow
I think it's great that you are open enough and willing to support your BF's kink/fetish, but you're not wrong in wanting/needing to have your desires meet as well. Maybe if you explain your feelings, wants, and desires to him like you just did here he will realize how neglected you are feeling. Also, when you do this, you probably don't want to have it come across as a threat, but at least be honest enough to let him know that you could go elsewhere for the intimacy you're looking for but you'd rather get it from him. Perhaps this will help him see that your needs aren't getting met and help open the lines of communication for you two enough to talk about how to resolve these issues. I wish you luck.
@CoffeeDrinker247 thank you for your insight.
@FreshStartnow
You don't say much that makes me think you would like to stay in the relationship. Yes, I do think that excessive use of pornography harms sexual relationships, but even if that is not true generally, you are, as you state, not happy in your sexual relationship. You are also not married, so there is no lifelong partnership to consider on its other merits. It sounds as if you would like to go, and I don't blame you.
I don't know how the experience of sex differs for men and women; I am a woman, and I can only speak for myself. Unfortunately, I have a great deal of trouble faking passion. Because this is true for me, I have some sympathy for your boyfriend. However, if it's not working, it's not working.
@energeticSummer2540 thank you.
@FreshStartnow
That sounds like he's very confused about his kinks and maybe sexuality. I mean you're doing everything you can and honestly props to you. Very hard to find someone as open and supportive! So you're doing fantastic here, however he's not being 100% genuine with his feelings and desires. With time if he isn't able to be honest with you after all that attempt, you should move on. You deserve to feel loved , it isn't fair to just have 1 side trying hard while a relationship has 2 sides.
Best of luck darling**
@Booklover95 thanks.. also hard because we live together
