What's going on ?
When my boyfriend holds my hand, it feels really good. Same with when he holds me by my waist as we walk ....it does feel good.....but when we kiss, i don't feel anything....why is it so ? Same goes for when he kisses me on my neck or kisses me intimately on other areas....i don't feel anything....i don't know why it's like that ? It really frustrates me coz i really love him and i want to feel good when we get intimate....why is this happening?
@limeBalloon4564
Hi lime<3
I have read your post, and understand you feel good when you have your hand held, or walk together etc, but when you are kissing and such you don't feel that *spark* is that right? If so, i am so sorry that you are having these confusing feelings on to why this is happening. For me, my experience in the past with others sometimes touching feels better than the more intimate stuff. Have you ever thought about if those are just your preferences of what you like the most in regard to receiving affection?
thank you for sharing lime, dont hesitate to reach out if you need support from a listener
best wishes<3
magic
Maybe you can try and takes things slow and gentle and maybe practice some more. You both just have to be in the right mood it takes time and it's ok to prefer other kinds of physical touch .crelationships are not just physical they're emotional so I would make sure you're working on a deeper connection and an emotional bond to create that spark
Maybe reflect on why you feel that way?
I too had a relationship like that and the person was just a horrible kisser. it felt awkward and weird and i decided i did not like kissing when encountered a person who was good at it I found i enjoyed it and felt things...
I am not saying same issue
but in any relationship if a person does things you do not enjoy it can become an issue speak up and work it out maybe they are hesitant or unsure of how you are responding.
i faked it until one day i just told them ... "you are bad at this it does nothing for me ....please stop".... as you can imagine that did not go well.
