Am I dealing with a Narcissistic Partner?
He makes me feel unwanted.
He tells me that I'm ugly and I should be thankful for having him in my life.
He tells me that if not for him I would not turn out to be the person that I am now.
He wanted everyone to call him Godfather
No one can stop him on doing anything he likes to do. If you stop him.. He ignores you and treat you like a bacteria (doesn't want you near him)
He is highly manipulative to get what he wants
He doesn't want his side of his bed touched
He likes blaming everything to me (death of family member, his wrong decisions, all simple things that went wrong)
He likes telling me "look at your self" (as if like he disgust me)
When I tell him I love him he just nods back
He doesn't want me to go out with my friends or even chat/ calls from my friends annoys him (even girl friends)
He keeps telling me that if I leave him, he would not feel bad because he can live alone
He keeps on bragging that he left all of his Exs because he doesn't like being restricted/held back from what he wanted to do.
He uses my car to go wherever he like as if he owns it already
Sometimes he is nice to me but very seldom (whenever he just feels like it)
He doesn't appreciate my efforts, instead he would belittle me
He calls my family (stupid, naive,dumb)
He doesn't respect nor greet my parents when we visit our house (his perspective is -it is not necessary and instead, my family should pay him respect and be the one greeting him- he said)
*Are these traits of a Narcissistic Man? I would really appreciate your thoughts*
[Edited by @QuietMagic 11/20/21 to remove stigmatizing content]
@WittyLulu14
Hi--I'm sorry that your partner is doing all of those things. 💜 From what you've described, it sounds like they are being harsh, belittling, rude, stubborn, manipulative, cold, and controlling.
Here is a couple resources I was able to find that has some tips for coping with a partner like this. In skimming through both, the main theme I'm seeing is that if you're unhappy as a result of this relationship, then it's helpful to set boundaries/expectations, communicate your needs, and try to ensure sure that your own needs are being met.
https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-deal-narcissistic-partner
These are a couple more general links on relationship expectations and boundaries that might also be helpful.
https://www.gottman.com/blog/truth-expectations-relationships/
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/set-boundaries
[Edited by @QuietMagic 11/20/21 to remove stigmatizing content]
