Am I doing something wrong?

@Winterr1122

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

I dont know what to do. Im in a great relationship, (I can tell here that you are ignoring certain red flags about this relationship. I don't think this is a great relationship because his behavior is coming across as controlling, manipulative and negative. His behavior is killing the relationship, and it turned it into a toxic one) I wouldnt trade it for anything, (This is settling for less, and almost being okay with how he is treating you) but I feel like Im always doing something wrong. (This is a sign you dont feel safe in this relationship, its making you walk on eggshells) Im completely oblivious to it most of the time because I dont think its wrong (This can be a sign that the way he often projects his feeliings and blame you its making you feel as if you are responsible for how he feels. The reality is he is not taking accountability for his feelings and emotions, its not your fault the way he gets angry) but my bf always seems to be upset with me over a lot of things. (This is a major red flag...he has killed all safety in the relationship with this behavior. He has unreasonable expectations of how you should be and what you should do, so when its conflicts with his fantasy is where he will get mad. His anger is also meant to make you do what he wants) I try to talk about it with him but it always seems to go nowhere and now I just hold back from saying anything. (Its understandable you feel this way since he is not making you feel like its safe to express yourself. There's communication issues on his part, this will only get worst) He tends to be passive aggressive most of the time. What should I do?

I cant hangout with him and I explain why, (This sounds like you value how he feels by the way you take the time to explain why you cant see him) but he just ends up getting mad (He became triggered here because of past child issues, the past takes over the present which makes him feel disconnected and then he tries to manipulate you into doing what he wants so his anxiety goes away) and goes to hangout with other people to rub it in my face to make me upset. (He s behaving revengeful and manipulative here...this is not an okay thing to do. He feels hurt, so the only way he can get rid of that hurt is to make you feel hurt. This is only going to make you feel disconnected and hurt.) Hell leave me on read and wont talk to me. (This is another manipulation called the silent treatment...he feels hurts so he then attempts to punish you on order to hurt you. This is a very toxic behavior you can't tolerate, its not a good relationship for you) Ill ask him why hes mad and hell say that he isnt, (I bet he tries to make you look as if you are overthinking or the one with the problem. You can't have a healthy relationship with someone who doesn't communicate) when its so obvious that he is. Sometimes Ill say no to certain things (You are setting a boundary here. You have a right to say "no" to anything you feel like you dont want to do) and he gets really mad at me (This tells me he took it as a rejection because of his past childhood, lost empathy for how you felt and blame it on you when its not your fault) even though he says hes okay with me refusing (He is very afraid to be vulnerable, so he will pretend everything is okay to not come off as weak, but then can't hold it in. He is not being genuine here at all)