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Arranged marriage troubles

User Profile: emotionalBlueberry2799
emotionalBlueberry2799 March 14th, 2022

Hi, I've been married for a month and ours was an arranged marriage.. I thought he looked good and spoke well and agreed to this wedding.. We had issues even before the wedding over me taking care of all the wedding expenses. He said he'll pay for honeymoon and the new car I've had an eye on.. So I agreed.. But now he says he has no money, I feel cheated.. He does not even ask me if I need any money for daily expenses, he well knows I spent all I had on the wedding. I work double shifts and support myself. It brings up hatred in me. I find that I don't like anything he does and get annoyed by even simple things. He's not an open person, but expects me to lift up the relationship by making conversation everytime. More than that, he has not been in a relationship like ever. Don't know if it's because of that, he is so bad in bed, he had zero reaction when we made out the first time, he is unable to get any erection lasting longer than 2 minutes.. This adds to the frustration I feel.. I have no attraction to him now and my only hope is a platonic relationship to save this marriage before its even began.. But I don't know if I'll ever get happiness out if it. I don't know what else to do.. It's like a weight on my chest which just won't lift.. Any advice on what I should do?

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March 14th, 2022

Hello @emotionalBlueberry2799,


Thank you for reaching out and sharing, I'm sorry to hear your situation and definitely no one deserves it.

What you should do? You know there is no readymade answers and it's better you decide than taking anyone else advise right? You know yourself and the situation better than anyone else. We are here to listen to you and support you. Please feel free to message any active listener whenever you want. ❤

User Profile: safespace22
safespace22 March 14th, 2022

hii @emotionalBlueberry2799

Thank you for sharing your story and I' so sorry that you're going through this situation. I understand that you feel betrayed as many things were not informed to you before your marriage. It can be extremely overwhelming and I can empathize with your feelings right now. I don't think anyone can really advise and tell you what to do. In the end, you're the expert on yourself and your life. You know the most about the situation you are in. However, we're here for you, to provide you with support and listen to you. Please feel free to reach out to me or any other available listener at any time. I hope you're well. Take care :)