Breakup

Hello my dear friend,

I read your entire page and I think you should give time to him, let him understand things himself, if he feels that you have to come back to him, then he will come himself, you love yourself.

@suchiii Love is inevitably full of anxiety, pain, and stress especially when you're not sure how much you mean to the person you hold a lot of hope and trust in. It makes sense why his distance would hurt you and why you were hesitant to take a break because of how often breaks lead to breakups. While your feelings of hurt because things ended are completely understandable, you deserve to be with someone who values you a lot more.

It sounds like there were communication issues with him and he felt frustrated that you didn't "get" him or maybe respond to him the way he wanted you to. The sad thing about this is that we can't understand every single person but the hopeful thing is that we can put the puzzle pieces of who someone is together patiently, see them as themselves when we let go of expectations for them to be anyone else. Whether things will get better with him or not is unsure but what's more important is taking the time to understand yourself and see what you'd like to have from a relationship the next time around.

You have a lot of time to learn and grow from this situation. I believe there's a good chance you'll be able to love again with it going over better than last time.

@suchiii : From your description you have wrote it seems that your ex behaviour after the argument was more becoming into friend behaviour and both of you having multiple breaks leading to a breakup has made you upset. It’s probably the best to figure out ways to help you cope with the way you feel and to talk and think about what has went wrong and what can be done to improve and go on from what’s happened.

hello @suchiii hopefully you're doing better now since this post is from a few days ago. I read your post and i can understand what you're going through is a tough time. I appreciate that you're opening up about your situation since it's really a hard thing to do. If you're struggling with your situation then feel free to reach out to me- i'd be glad to listen to you.

Hello @suchiii,

I’m so sorry you are going through all this. What I just don’t understand how can a guy start to be so distant when you are only at a 3 month relationship. Sometimes guys are the ones that don’t tell us women how they feel, so how are we suppose to know that they want to feel understood if they are not open to us right? I understand your fear of him telling you that you too need a break, and you are right sometimes relationships don’t go as we expected, so they usually don’t come back. Honestly this guy wants to take a break to think things over and see if your relationship works our not. Not sure if by now he has gotten in contact with you or not. If he hasn’t maybe he still is giving himself some time. Guys usually are different from women and they intent to think different than us. Give him he’s space and if he is still not coming back and just want to be friends, we’ll theirs nothing you can do anymore.

I totally understand how you might feel this makes you afraid insecure that nobody is going to love you anymore if he doesn’t come back. But trust me give yourself some time and love yourself to, if you don’t love yourself nobody else will. try to learn that sometimes relationships don’t go the way we want them to, and always remember that frase let him go, if he comes back he was yours, if he doesn’t he was never yours. But believe me if this guy doesn’t come back and just wants to be friends he’s lost because he will lose someone as beautiful as you. maybe my post may not make you feel good, but just wanted to let you know that we are here for you. And if you need someone to vent to just reach out. Hopefully by now things have gotten better much love to you.