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User Profile: forcefulSea7026
forcefulSea7026 July 1st, 2023

My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years but lately it seems like has a criticism over some part of my personality or appearance. He comments on the fact that I can be shy and introverted or the fact that my job requires me to wear a mask and it has given me a bit of acne on my one cheek.


The most recent comment was the fact that I am not a spontaneous person. I have anxiety and like the be prepared when going out. Bringing a snack or water bottle and knowing what to wear so I don’t get too hot or cold. I don’t need to know everything down to the minute but I am not someone who can just get up and go do something. My boyfriend got mad at the fact that we couldn’t just get up and do something I wanted to know the weather so I knew what to wear and if we were going to leave in 20 minutes or 2 hours. He told me I am boring and no fun because of this.


I am constantly have internal battles with myself wondering if I should be changing to fit what he deems to be ideal person. There are things about him that are not my favourite but I would never ask him to change a single thing.

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User Profile: dukeofdearham
dukeofdearham July 2nd, 2023

@forcefulSea7026,

I'd say it is no more then fair in a relationship to show mutual understanding and accept each other.

If that doesn't happen and continues to not happen, then you should ask yourself why you actually are in that relationship