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Feeling Insecure

User Profile: testinganx
testinganx September 26th, 2018

Hello,

I've never posted here before, so I'm not sure what to expect. I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for about four years now. Next September I am going to be moving near her, hopefully. I say hopefully because my physical health isn't the best. The goal is to get better before I move there.

The thing is, I'm not a very insecure person. I used to be, but it isn't as bad as it used to be. However, it hasn't been easy lately. I look at pictures of her and listen to her voice and I wonder why she chose me. She is incredibly beautiful. I am attractive, but I don't think I'm attractive enough to be with her. When I say that she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, I mean it. She is an incredible person, too. I'm terrified that she'll see right through me and will realize that I'm not good enough for her. Actually, I believe that I can become more than good enough for her. Let me rephrase this ... I am scared that she'll decide my mental health is too much for her to deal with. I'm terrified that everyone doubts me when I say that I want to get better. She is such a sweet person. Deep down I know that she just wants me to get better so that I'll be happy and she truly does love me, but I am feeling so insecure. She's too beautiful for anyone, honestly. She's so gorgeous that she makes me sit there and think about life. It's the equivalent of too seeing a natural phenomenon.

How do I stop feeling so insecure?

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User Profile: ASilentObserver
ASilentObserver October 1st, 2018

@testinganx Aww testing. I hear you.

I understand your thoughts and I think it is natural to be insecure. What you could do?

Probably have self-reflection and understand that when she chose you, it means she saw your best traits. You may communicate with her on this matter to get your thoughts clear and feel better. I hope things get better for you.

You may check this post on insecurities and I hope you find it helpful to deal with your insecurities -- https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/RelationshipSupportResourcesPositivity_526/HowToTackleRelationshipInsecurities_177522/

We are with you here to support.