Fell in Love with a Friend
So I thought this was just a simple crush. The one who makes you happy whenever you talk to him. Whenever you see him your heart skips a beat. Haha. But then I observed I get jealous whenever he mentions one of our officemates when we talk(through chat) as we are on a work from home arrangement. I know I don't have the right to get jealous as we are just friends. He also don't show any hints that he likes me as much as I do like me. Now I almost cry everyday. Though I heartbreak before. Never thought that this would hit me on a new level. Deeper. Got triggered just the other night when the girl officemate asked me if my crush and I were talking. Which is a weird question as duuhhh, we are all officemates. I responded with "why? Is it not allowed that we talk" something like that. I'm not a native English speaker by the way so I just translated that. I think something is going on between those two. And it really breaks my heart. I want to somehow disappear. I want to cut off connection with my crush. But then we are officemates. And we always talk about work related stuff. I just want to heal and move on. Any tips?
@Lostsoul7923
Hi--I'm sorry that's happening. 💜 You have a friend at work who you have a crush on, but you feel like he most likely doesn't have the same feelings for you. You've experienced heartbreak before, but it still feels really bad this time. 😟 And it's just a really sad situation that you're trying to figure out how to deal with. You wish you could just not be around him since it's painful, but you have to see him since you work together.
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HERE is a resource I found that has some tips for getting over a crush. I skimmed through and these are a few of the general tips I like.
- It's okay to feel sad
- Take care of yourself and do things you like
- Find things you can distract yourself with
- Talk about it with someone (HERE is a list of experienced 7 Cups listeners who accept chats on loneliness)
There's another link (HERE) I've held onto for a while that's supposed to be for something else (BPD), but the tips for loneliness just feel so wonderful to me that I wanted to share them:
- Wrap up in a blanket and watch your favourite TV show
- Write all your negative feelings on a piece of paper and tear it up
- Listen to a song or piece of music you find uplifting
- Write a comforting letter to the part of yourself that is feeling sad or alone
- Cuddle a pet or a soft toy.
Personally, just the idea of taking care of myself and allowing things to be soft/vulnerable is something I love and always feel really comforted by when I'm feeling sad and lonely.
