Fiance and I cant stop fighting.
My fiance and I have been fighting so much these past 2 weeks. I'm afraid hes talking to other girls behind my back. I'm very insecure and jealous, I'll admit, but I didnt cause myself to be like this. Hes cheated on me before many times in the beginning. No more as far as I know since then. I talked to a guy one time and he gets pissed so I quit talking to any guy. Lately, hes been wanting to be friends with girls more and more. I'm just so afraid hes going to cheat. I know there's nothing I can do to stop him. Hes going to do whatever he wants. I dont know what to do.. I've tried talking to him and he just wants to accuse me of doing it myself and getting mad at me for being so insecure.
I am very sorry to hear about this, and I'm even more sorry to tell you that your relationship sounds like an abusive one. He's preventing you from talking to any guy, which is an overcontrolling and possessive behavior. Moreover, he's minimizing your worries and he's gaslighting you, meaning that he's trying to make you doubt your perception and feel like you make up things and you're the one to blame. These are all signs that a relationship is abusive. I understand that it's hard to see things from this perspective when you're the one involved, also because your feelings for him make it harder to see things clearly. But I can ensure you that from an outsider's perspective, this is clearly visible. In these cases, it's a very good time to take some time for yourself, away for him, and reflect on how your relationship works and its unequal balance. I'm sure that, if you give yourself a chance to clear your thoughts away from him, you'll be able to see it too. At that point, I hope you can make the decision that is best for your own wellbeing. Remember that you deserve to be happy, and being happy includes being treated with respect, like an equal, which he's something that he refuses to do.