Going through it 😏
For the last 8 1/2 years, I've been going through a hard mental breakdown 😔 I was cheated on and off again, every month, every year. Together with him for 11 years and married for 9. I dont know why I stayed so long ? Now all I feel is numbness. To top it off he ended up being bi-curious after all the cheating was done. Told me he had feelings for a dude while in our marriage. I don't know how to feel or be anymore. Im lost.
@Paradox1995
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I'm sorry for all he has put you through.
You didn't deserve to be betrayed like this 🩷
Healing will take some time, please be gentle with yourself until then 🩷
@Paradox1995 I'm very sorry for everything you had to go through, I can't imagine how hard it must be to go through so many betrayals from someone you care about so deeply, especially after staying for so many years and giving them multiple chances at change and reconciliation. It's very hard to settle back into life when this happens, are there any hobbies that you really enjoy doing over the years, things you find healing to focus on? I hope things get much better for you from here, and I hope you have a great day :)
@Paradox1995
@Paradox1995 I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, it takes a lot to open up and come to love a person in a relationship just for one's trust to be broken in this way, it's unfortunate. No one should be cheated upon in this way at all. It is painful but i hope you are able to gather strength and courage to help you heal overtime. You can do it!
@Paradox1995
I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, it takes a lot to open up and come to love a person in a relationship just for one's trust to be broken in this way, it's unfortunate. No one should be cheated upon in this way at all. It is painful but i hope you are able to gather strength and courage to help you heal overtime. You can do it!
@Paradox1995
I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, it takes a lot to open up and come to love a person in a relationship just for one's trust to be broken in this way, it's unfortunate. No one should be cheated upon in this way at all. It is painful but i hope you are able to gather strength and courage to help you heal overtime. You can do it!
@Paradox1995
Hi, this sounds really hard and rough, I am so sorry for all the difficult emotions you must have endured during this.
You deserved better and it's so normal to feel betrayed and numb. It's a very normal way to cope with it all. 🙌
Please take care of yourself and feel free to vent, rant, ask listeners to hear your thoughts, this is an amazing community and you're not alone ❤️❤️
@Paradox1995
It sounds like you’ve been carrying an incredible amount for a very long time. After everything you’ve experienced, it makes sense that you’re feeling numb and lost. You don’t have to figure everything out at once. I’m here if you’d like to talk about what you’re going through.
@Paradox1995@diligentMap898 Hello! First off, I feel sorry your experiencing this.
We need to understand that unhappiness and incompatibility might appear even though there is love. Unfortunately, love is not enough when it comes to a long and stable relationship.
Your partner showed an affinity to other partner(s) and betrayed the loyalty - which is one of the most important aspects when it comes to a long and stable relationship. Even though there is a lot of time you spent with your partner, do not consider it a waste - it should be a good lesson when it comes to the next amazing people you can meet afterwards. It built you standards, expectations. Do not let this lose trust in people. Everyone is unique, we all have different opinions and beliefs.
Focus on your career, goals, objectives, hobbies - activities that bring you joy. Lot of people around us, so many, and surely you deserve way better than this. Stay safe and let me know if you'd like someone to listen ! Take care!
@Paradox1995
Oh my dear!! I am genuinely very sorry to know that you had to go through so much hurt and betrayal for a really long period of time. And i can understand that being with someone for 11 years, all while going through so much hurt, can make you feel numb and lost now. But please dont be too hard on yourself for staying because you were just trying to hold on to something that mattered to you.
Can we talk about what has been helping you get through things lately?