How do I stop loving my ex that was terrible to me??
3 of my best friends have said my ex is a terrible person. That she has a black heart. That she doesnt care about other people. That shes fucked up. One of those people are my exs sisters boyfriend so theyre close.
People on forums have said shes got issues. My first therapist said shes fucked up emotionally and crazy. My second therapist said shes too immature, doesnt love herself enough.
Why cant I accept any of this? Why doesnt any of it click and sink in?
When we were together (dated twice) she was the absolute sweetest, most adoring, loving, caring, affectionate, bubbly, outgoing, amazing girl. We had so much fun together every time we were together. Every little memory we made together means so much to me they were so amazing.
All these amazing memories and times and how sweet she was stick in my mind and heart. All the fucked up things she did, its like they never happened.
Why cant I accept it and believe it and feel it that shes not a good person?
How do I get it to sink in? How do I believe it emotionally??
@L90 because you know it os not true or it doesn't matter...see the faxed up things do not matter, that's why they blurr away, you gave your soul to someone and your soul is dedicated to them...if your dog gets sick acting weird you put it down or abandon it? This is what true love really means, loving someone when everyone hates tgem or says they are broken or crazy, loving without judging but just accepting the faxed up things and all else...do you abandon a child because they poop or cry or act up? Love is not about sparkles and stars and hearts, but about dedication and devotion...when 1000 people stand against your partener you are the only one to stand beside them, that is called true love...when the world is against them, you are the weird one who loves and stand by them...what you feel is simply true love...
@grillme
yea I know I truly love(d) her with my heart and soul but apparently she did not feel the same way and I have no idea why. She doesnt want to be with me and I dont know why. The things she said and did made it seem like she was crazy about me and in love with me but obviously that wasnt the case.
I dont want to let go, I dont want to move on, I want her back. But I know logically thats not healthy.
I wish I could at the least feel some sort of disgust towards her but its always sadness and heartbreak and it sucks
@L90
Because deep inside you care about her and don't want to abandon a lost soul like everybody else. She may not even know what is wrong with her but that should not doom her. I know when I was not well I pushed away people close to me...who knows what turmoil her poor soul goes through...
@grillme
I dont know if she
@L90
That may be a different story, sadly, if she is in love with someone else there is nothing alse to do but take care of your broken soul...
@L90
Have you seen her mistreat others? That was the biggest wake-up call for me, especially bc my ex was constantly telling me that I was overreacting, he was upset because of how I treated him, or "the problem is that you are upset about this."
After we separated, so many people told me things they noticed about how he treated me and my son. Hearing others' perspectives also made it more real to me.
You may need more time and space. Hugs.