I don’t know how to forgive
So my boyfriend is moving to a different country to study on the 12th of August and I’m moving to a whole another country to study on the 25th of August too. Now today was the last day we met, and all I gave him was a framed photo of us, which he seemed to really like and appreciate. I’m glad about it.
But what bothers me is that he didn’t really get me anything or do anything special for me despite this being our last chance to meet before transitioning into a Long Distance Relationship. I’m hurt and I feel that I’m not as important to him as I thought.
We talked about it and he told me that he was going to gift me one of his t shirts today (I’ve been asking for it for a while now and that’s all I’ve really wanted) but that he forgot to get it. It makes me feel incredibly sad that he forgot to get it even though he knew this was the last time we would meet.
We had an argument over it but didn’t really reach a solution.
I’m confused and hurt and sad. Should I let it go? Am I overreacting to this situation?
Your feelings are valid. It reminds me of a time my partner had to travel abroad for work. On the ride to the airport I was crying and he was focused on handling emails he had to have in order by the time he got there. I asked him why he wasn’t sadder and he said “that’s life” not in a mean way but in a factual way. His coping mechanism was just focusing on what had to be done.
i think your boyfriend could possible be sadder than you over it and going to miss you just as much if not more than you will miss him, but to cope he’s not showing it or getting emotional because sometimes once the flood gates open it’s hard to close them. He knows he has to focus and not get emotional or else he could want to back out of the plan to go abroad altogether.
while I can’t know for sure why he is acting the way he is and handling it the way he is just know that it’s very possible this is a possibility. He’s just trying to focus on the facts and not get emotional because it will only make this time harder.
ans just know your time apart will only make you guys stronger and have a deeper relationship! Especially if you talk to each other about your days and what’s going on you guys will come back in person stronger with a deeper bond
This makes me feel so much better. Thank you for your words and for taking the time to share your story with me. I greatly appreciate it!
I’m really glad!! Absolutely glad I could share and help.
Hi.. i know long distance can be tough.. but it doesn't always need a certain thing to remind you of the person.. materialistic things fades, breaks, rust, tear apart.. but memories, conversation you have, and the way you bid each other a good bye stays for a long time..
I am sure you guys will talk over phone or VC .. do you really want this to be the 1st conversation you have after reaching the place ?? ..
I would love it if someone wrote me a long message about how they really feel about me and how they want to see me again etc ..
I think he would love it too
Thank you so much!
You can DM me if you want to talk more about it
I’ll keep that in mind, thanks again :)
