I don't want to mess it all up again.
My boyfriend and I have tried to make it work again and again over the last 3 years. I love him so much and I know he feels the same.
I get so anxious and insecure that I take it out on him. When he doesn't contact me back, I call him constantly and send message after message. I acuse him of the most irrational things. I'm scared I'm going to mess up our relationship again.
Does anyone have any advice? I really need to stop before it all goes wrong again.
@BPD1998
It sounds like you're learning to make this relationship work through the process of trial and error over the past 3 years which is a really painful process. Is it at all possible to have some good conversations about expectations and boundaries so that you both know exactly what you can rely upon in terms of behaviour?
For the example of the message reply you've given, if he considers 2 hours or 24 hours as a reasonable response time for your message, it would greatly help you to know! Or if you can decide upon some keyword like urgent to show that some particular message requires early response? Or if you could express what you expect a reasonable response time to be?
Over the course of these conversations regarding expectations and boundaries it's quite likely you can both see the other's perspective and it greatly helps things along. Good luck!
@0m
Thank you so much for the advice. I will give it a go
