I'm stressed out.
Hello there. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm currently in a lot of stress with my current relationship. We've been together for 7 months and I love her very much, although a lot has changed. She has been affected by my past very much. I have fucked up at times, I looked at other girls accidentaly, I've lied a few times, but most of all I've tried my best to fix everything. Her feelings are on and off most of the time, they always come and go, am I getting played with?
She's started to be even more cheeky to me, and I believe that she narcisstic and she is emotionally abusive to me. She talks to her ex and is always happy when talking to him, and she still gets hurt and cries over him sometimes. This makes me wonder whether she loves him or not.
I buy her a lot of things and barely get a thank you anymore. I buy her McDonald's every single day and she barely says thank you.
There's too much to even explain but if you really wanted to help me out I would be happy to tell you everything. Basically I feel
-Used
-Played about
-Worthless
-Not enough
and so on. I bend over backwards for this girl and I barely get the same bacl. It's really hard. Please help, thank you
@diligentSkies7573
Based on what you have said, I have a generalized idea of whats going on your relationship, however I would need further information about your relationship, you could send me a PM so we can discuss it in further detail if you'd like.
@freshLight64 I'm not able to PM you
@diligentSkies7573
Oh i see, sorry to hear that. It seems you are a teen, and I mostly listen to people over 18 years old, so thats why it's not letting you message me.
@freshLight64 would you be able to talk to me even if im a teen or not?
@diligentSkies7573
"I have fucked up at times, I looked at other girls accidentaly" When being with her, you don't want to be looking at other girls and focus of her because she will feel like you care more about the other girl." I've lied a few times, but most of all I've tried my best to fix everything." This part is something that is not a good idea, correct me if im wrong, but you do this to avoid conflict?, this makes a girl feel not safe, and it makes her feel you are not being honest. "Her feelings are on and off most of the time, they always come and go, am I getting played with?" This part tells me that she is being flakey, unsure and probably have given you a speech like "I don't know where im at this point of my life, im so busy, i got to think about stuff, its not you, its me", I could also tell you are over-pursuing her probably over the 30% range, if i had to guess it would be around over 60%, and other things going on, but this makes a girl feel that way, so she begins to back away, you chase, so she backs away even more. "She talks to her ex and is always happy when talking to him" This doesn't look good at all..."I buy her a lot of things and barely get a thank you anymore." When it comes to gifts, give them from your heart and without expectations because it can come across as you wanted a reaction out of her. "I buy her McDonald's every single day and she barely says thank you" You wanna try to no do this, its very sweet and kind of you, but if she is not saying thank you, then maybe you shouldn't do it.
@freshLight64 Thank you. She's really mean and nasty as well and also likes to crack me up and make jokes, but they are most of the time sick and just uncalled for. For example, "aw imagine his dick going up inside you" "oh my god he is hot" and stuff like "i dont like you anymore" and she'll say jokes to hurt my feelings.
@diligentSkies7573
That's enough reason to walk away and never looking back with this relationship.
@freshLight64 even tho no matter what I done this is enough reason?
@diligentSkies7573
She is being rude and disrespectful right now, by you staying you are enabling her behavior. Let her come to you, don't force things. Wait to hear from her then make a date.