In love with 2 people? What should I do?
Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years after about 2 1/2 years in i started to see doubts in areas of intimacy and finances. He has a hard time keeping a job and is always looking for a sales get money quick job and ends up not making much when he could get a good regular job if he chose too. He wanted to wait until marriage to have sex and although we slipped up a couple times we havent. Now he sees the disconnect in yr 5 and wants to add it back into the relationship and i feel as though im not sexually attracted to him anymore. The hard part is hes a great guy, hes caring, we laugh and have fun together, he helps around the house, and i know one fay hell be a great father. I met a guy 6 months ago, i didnt plan on having feelings for him or anything. The rest is history, hes so funny, creative, tall, Im attracted to his whole being, at this point we hang out everyday. He told me he loved me and has had a eye on me for 4 years at my job (he worked in the mall too) but was afraid to speak. He says he wants to marry by next December, and wants us to go out of state to chase our dreams which line up as well next summer. He got me a expensive jewelry for Christmas. I am in love with him as well, hes what I want in a husband as well. I just dont understand how it could be fate if I have to hurt my current bf and Im too afraid to leave. WHAT SHOULD I DO? STAY WITH MY CURRNT BF? OR TAKE A LEAP AND FOLLOW MY HEART? WITH GUY # 2???
@sincereOwl138
Marriage will not miraculously change anyone. It will only reaffirm any doubts you have. If after 2 years you have doubts then you need to take those doubts seriously. Marriage is a life time commitment. One should not hurry or be pressured into this decision. It needs to be mutual. Perhaps you need to take time to re-evaluate your needs, strengths and weaknesses before you make such a serious decision.
@sincereOwl138
It doesn't sound like you've thought this through all the way. The excitement of dating someone new is highlighting your current partners weaknesses.
The new guy is getting all the credit even though he really couldn't of showed you anything substantial about himself yet
@sincereOwl138
I say go with guy #2. As it has been 5 years and he doesn't want to get marrued yet. He is not going to get married ever. If he has not made up his mind now he proabaly will never be avle to amke that jump into marriage with you or anyone. He had his chance with you but did not seal the deal. It will be hard leason to learn but he has no right to drag you on like that. But do remembers qith guy #2 , eventually down the road you will find something annoying about him with time but marriage means you work it out and not go looking elsewhere. You aren't married to guy #1 so he does not deserve husband treatment which includes loyalty and that give and take relationship.
