Is meeting the guy once a week normal , when he lives 13miles away ?
Hi. I met this guy online, he is 28, Im 32. The first few weeks was great, we used to meet up twice a week, start sleeping together too. But now it looks like he is finding excusses not to meet, illness, birthday, wedding etc.. so we meet one a week or even once every two weeks. I ask if he still wants to see me, he make it like Im overreacting and he wouldn't meet me if he woudnt like me. He telling me we are dating and he is not seeing anyone else. He texts me everyday but our conversation very plain, how are you ? what are you up to? . He told me he doesnt like texting that much.
It has been two months and I feel like this isnt right, but I dont know if he just dont want to rush into relationship or just not interested.
I dont know what to think, he is giving me wrong signals, I really like him, but dont want to be somone who he have sex once every two weeks.
@selfdisciplinedFig6258
Hi, its good that you are listening to your gut/heart about this not feeling right for you and that might be what this is all about – that you want more from a relationship than he does – more time, contact, more depth etc.
What Im reading from your message is that you are feeling unheard – that he isnt showing empathy when you have expressed your feelings. I understand that this adds to the confusion and frustration. If he doesnt like texting then that is ok, some people just dont and thats why they hang out more face to face, but this isnt happening either. What kind of work/study does he do – might it be that he is exhausted when he finally gets time to himself?
There are a lot of possible angles from which to view this, and at the end of the day what stands out to me are your last words – I really like him, but dont want to be someone who he have sex once every two weeks. Its ok and perfectly normal to want more than that. The question is, what kind of relationship do you want, and is he able to create that type of relationship with you?
I wish you all the best in love, with or without this guy and hope this helps :-)
