Is there any going back with this “friend”?
I am in a really happy relationship. Like I know this is my person. It’s been 6 years and we live together. I am in love with him. I would never physically cheat on him. But I can’t stop it when people flirt with me. It’s people I really want to be friends with but then they start flirting and I want them to like me. It’s like I’m afraid that if I don’t flirt back then they won’t ever want to talk to me. This doesn’t happen with a ton of people but there is one right now that I really, really like as a person. Like he is so fun to talk to and connect with but a little flirting started and it was fun at first but then it turned really sexual. I played a long a few times. He said he understands and doesn’t want to lose our friendship and that he will stop but then literally 5 minutes later is hitting on me again. He says it doesn’t mean anything but some things he says makes me think he is starting to catch feels. Idk He’s 7 years older than me, is a teacher (like me) in the same district, he is VERY well known in the district (in a good way). In another life, I would date him but in this life I just want to be friends. My boyfriend is my #1. Idk if I can have both. Is there any going back? :/
you should look into poly relationships. if u feel committed to your boyfriend, first discuss with him before going further with this “friend”. because it would be unfair to him if you give attention to someone else without him having acknowledgment of it. be fair and decide if you’re curious to carry on more. if he isn’t willing to accept that or you can’t drop this guy then i suggest ending this relationship so it saves pain and betrayal. but remember your happiness is important yet being considerate or cautious in this will be helpful in ur decision making. :) hope that helps and gives slight insight!
