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User Profile: Quotegiver
Quotegiver August 10th, 2021

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year (long distance). This past year, he has been caught flirting with another girl on Instagram (someone from his school) and he had downloaded tik tok videos of half naked girls which he saved. He also mostly followed TikTok half naked girls. Since then, he’s deleted Instagram and TikTok but now whenever we don’t talk or it’s been a long time since we talked, I feel that he’s talking to someone else because when he was texting that girl he said the reason was that he didn’t know how to talk to me and so he had reached out to her because I was in a bad mood and he didn’t know how to talk to me and so he decided talk to someone else. So now whenever he goes on a trip or we don’t talk for a long time (we usually FaceTime or text throughout the day or call to fall asleep together at night) I feel like he’s talking to someone else and with all that happening, I feel like he doesn’t love me and I know he’s trying his hardest but I don’t know how I can trust him again. I don’t know what to do so any advice would be helpful right now.

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User Profile: ouiCherie
ouiCherie August 19th, 2021

Hi @Quotegiver

I don't have any advice on my sleeve, but that is indeed inconvenient and insecure to not have confidence in your boyfriend when you seems want to be able to trust him. Do you think it's instinct?

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User Profile: Quotegiver
Quotegiver OP August 19th, 2021

Instinct in what way?

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User Profile: Quotegiver
Quotegiver OP August 19th, 2021

He broke up with me. He wants us to have a future in a couple months or something but I don’t see it happening. Thank you for the responses and advice.

User Profile: PumpkabooKayla
PumpkabooKayla August 21st, 2021

@Quotegiver

Hi there,

So your boyfriend violated your trust by talking to other girls - I would definitely feel hurt and betrayed in that situation, too. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and it must be so hard to have that broken and always be wondering what is going on. It sounds like you are wanting to continue this relationship despite the trust being broken, right? Have you talked to him at all about how his interactions with other girls made you feel and how you are worried about it?

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User Profile: Quotegiver
Quotegiver OP August 21st, 2021

Yea we’ve talked about it multiple times. He deleted the two apps (Instagram-where he had texted the girl) and TikTok (where he looked at half naked girls). This last time when we talked was like the last straw. He broke it off and said that we both need to work on it and come back in a few months.

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