My cheated played lovestory

@humorousApricot2702 that sounds tough maybe you deserve better if he says he is no longer active on the dating app i wouldn't trust him fully

@humorousApricot2702

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

I loved someone truly, before we started to date, he was in relationship with an older women. When I figure it, he said he is trying to get over, (I can tell that things didn't start out well from the beggining. He is coming across as someone who lies, and this should be a deal breaker) she is not letting him go. (Maybe is him who contacts her when he feels lonely and puts her on a cycle of on/off?) I believed whatever he said and I started living with him. (Things started way too quickly here. I can tell you were logging for a deep connection and someone to take care of you. It's important to really work on this because its going to make people like him take advantage of you) They broke up, I was happy finally she is gone. We were living happily, we were more friends, we worked in same company. We were even playing to get married. However, 2 days back I found dating app on his phone I asked about it, he said it was installed in past and he is not seeing anyone he loves me, (If this was true then a dating app shouldn't have been on his phone. He tells you all kind of promises, while dating other women behind your back. This is not the kind of a man you can have a healthy relationship because you will always feel a worry and be in a constant anxiety mode wondering if he is with someone else) however he is changing and I can see that. (He lied to the other women, he lied to you many times, there's no way he can change just like that)I dont know how to accept it or forget it. Its hurting me. (I can see you are hurting because of whats going on, but you are trying to ignore how you feel just to be with him. Part of love is having self respect, you are not honoring your feelings and having self respect when you tolerate a man who is willing to cheat on you) I dont want to lose him. (I can see you are afraid of potentially losing him, but things didn't start well. He can't give you the kind of love and care you deserve, and i doubt he will ever change) I love him. (I really want you to think about this question "What's love to you?", from the sounds of it the definitio of love for you seems to be "I have to stay with someone even if the lie, cheat and hurt me. Love should feel safe, comfortable, caring, inviting, honesty, respect, communication...Is anything of that part of this "relationship?") Please help me.