My relationship with alcohol and humans
I stopped drinking about 6 months ago on a quest to find a better version of myself. I sleep better, feel better and for once I feel I am thinking clearly. The problem I am having is the relationships I once had/have now seem so surface level...I find myself feeling alone in a crowd, misunderstood and disconnected from my spouse. Send help...
Hi Friendly! Congratulations 6 months and you feel better - I am just 39 days and I know that life is going to shift - alcohol was the true buddy - at least for me and I understand I may not have as much desire to hang out with my friends who did drink / I think I will miss just hanging with my boyfriend and even myself. It was just fun and now it has to shift - it has been the longest 39 days ever but you give me hope that while my relationship with my buddy / alcohol is changing/ it is going to change me for the better. Which is what you first posted - many just shorter times with your friends - just like no time with your friend -alcohol. New interests or shifting the night to day activities. I am proud of you and you are inspiring me to keep going! They say it’s when you get to a year - I am not stopping forever but 6 months would be super helpful! Kudos!
It does get easier as far as cravings etc, I am just starting to really miss what I thought was good about it. I know that the romantics of having a wine tasting or a beer on a patio was really not all that great BC when I play the movie forward I’m hungover the next day and life ain’t so great. I’m happy to help in anyway I can. I am seeing so clearly now that I am struggling putting up with everyone else’s bullcrap...it makes my eye twitch...feeling super lost...
Are you feeling lost because of loss of your identity without alcohol? I can totally relate. It’s 40 days today and it had bern a long 40. I am still having all these headaches - not really cravings but this is your longest I have gone in 20 years and it is because of this bipolar / I get to associate with now. Made me stop - I have fit 30 days but , I relate to what does life look like socially. Right now I am depressed and anxious and going into the deep with this diagnosis and really trying to care for myself without caffeine and alcohol and changing my diet. It’s so not interesting. Feels like we both need new interests now? That is exactly all about a new identity. What else makes you happy that you want to explore? I missed how you feel disconnected from your spouse. Wanted to touch you on your stop system! So glad you shared!🙏
Oops support system -sorry typos - typing too fast 🌈