Narcasistic abusive relationship

I met him on line. Shy and reserved. works in a school.

divorced. Said his wife was an alcoholic and use to beat him (flag)

said he’d been the Amy (potential flag)

said he hadn’t had a relationship since he left his wife.

he was quite avoidant at times. Flew hit and cold (flag)

I use to get this gut feeling something wasn’t right.

i had moved in because he lived so far away.

Eventually met his kids and parents.

started making a life with him. He was often distant but then living again.

sex was occasional but I put it down ti his age. (52) and maybe low testirone.

Triggers- little things would happen. He’s be quiet. Ignore me. Always on his phone. one minute he was loving and the next cold.

i checked his phone. i could never be prepared for what I’d find.

he was on every hook up site for casual anonymous sex.

dogging. Swinging. Casual dating.

His friends were all swingers. There was a conversation with his best mate arranging to send his wife to him for sex.

They were swingers. I’d met these people. I’d no idea.

this shy reserved man was a sexual deviant. Meeting strangers, married women, in hotels and his camper van for sex.

suddenly his late gone from work all made sense.

His van breaking down on a dark country road in a dark car park and now I have confirmed it’s a dogging car park.

His reaction when i put this all to him ….

the evidence laid out in front of him …his reply

‘you’ve got nothing on me’

no remorse. No excuses. No explanation.

I packed and left. The whole relationship was a lie.

i was chosen to be at home while he continued his sorted life.

if I’d not checked I’d still be there.