No boyfriend
I'm 16 and I never had a boyfriend. I'm trying my best to care about myself, practice self love and staying optimistic about this but it just HURTS seeing people my age dating and being happy in a relationship and I'm alone. I'm scared I'm gonna stay alone my whole life
@23helicopters
where does this idea come from that you should have a boyfriend by a certain age? .... or because your friends have one? ....... both are wrong..... No one is keeping score.
the real thing is some people date someone .... just to have a bf/ or gf ............. some people will make poor choices or could make a big mistake with someone they do not even like that much.....
do not settle for someone to fit in... or whatever ........ instead be patient do not feel rushed into anything
I actually want to have a boyfriend to share my time with him, do cool stuff together... It just seems so cool to have someone with whom you can share your life and be on this journey together. And we'll, feeling loved would be nice too. I'm emotionally starved ATM, I don't know if that's the right word but that's how I feel.
@23helicopters
I understand that have been there too...... but again in that mode many settle and chose close enough you only get one first love make sure it is not someone you look back on and cringe
you might have fun for a short while........ then a decision to make to break up...or the right person comes along and sees you as set with the person settled for.....
@23helicopters
Maybe therapy and friendships might be your best start. I would advise against having a relationship just to heal your wounds. You put yourself at risk of abuse by doing so. Also, friendship can give you everything on your list. 16 is very young, develop your self confidence and you'll be denying requests right and left.
You're right actually. I have a lot of unhealed trauma and all this stuff so I should concentrating on that instead of getting a boyfriend.
I went to a psychologist because I thought it might help but she wasn't making me feel any better and it was just a waste of time. I have a lot of struggles with friendships actually.. I have only one real friend. I feel like it's very hard to find real friends nowadays..
@23helicopters
Oh dear! I am really sorry about that! But let me ask you a question, Is getting a boyfriend everything that's left in life?
I know it's pretty hard to see people date and spend their time but there are other people in this world too who are single and still happy and enjoy their time with their homies.
Remember one thing in life: No matter how much boys grow up,they'll always remain immature comparatively to girls and honestly according to my experience boys are never genuine about something and you tell me if a person is always confused about a decision and are not genuine, how can you just rely on them?
You are a material gurll and you don't need a racoon dog to babysit (boy)!
And surely, you will date someone in future,it's just a matter of time!
Think it in this way that no-one around you,deserves you and is made for you on whom you can rely upon!
Alright? Be cool, and continue to be optimistic and whenever you want to talk just contact a listener her xp
Have a nice day ahead and you'll find the one for sure,just wait < 3
Thank youuuu! You made me feel better about that