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I feel hurt that I'm not getting the same energy I give to my boyfriend and it's making me distant from him. We are in a long-distance relationship, so communication is really important to me. He is busy with work and says he's tired every day. He said sorry to me once for not giving me some time and told me some of the reasons why he gets so tired from his daily life which I understand.
What I don't understand is, that sometimes he's active on social media posting stuff, and he would reply to me only before his bedtime. And sometimes he would just tell me to wait because he's tired. We only communicate at least twice a day- before he goes to work/after waking up or before he goes to sleep. Sometimes he would message me more but that's rare and only in his most free time, but even though he does that probably to make up for the times he talked to me less, I don't feel anything about it anymore. Even when he says he loves me and thinks of me at the end of the day, I don't even know what to say, I don't feel the love I used to have because I feel like I'm just someone he talks to in his most convenient time.
I did not demand him to message me every minute or every hour because I understand how busy he gets and I'm also busy with work. What makes me confused is the time he spent on social media posting memes but keeping my message unread only to reply when he's about to sleep and reply back before he goes to work tomorrow morning.
Hello there,
I’ve been in a long distance relationship myself and I know it’s not easy. Tell him how you feel and how you would like to spend some quality time with him. Maybe you or he could set up a day virtually and do something fun. When I was long distance, my partner and I did painting together and it was nice. Try a virtual date or set up a time in the weekend to see each other in person. But, if you see that he’s not messaging you so much, try not to message him so much either. Do something different in your time and don’t focus so much on what he’s doing.
Hi, thanks for your advice. I have already told him before how I would like us to talk more and that it makes me feel closer to him. At first, he would try to do it but later on, he's back at it again. Now it's harder because he has to work even on weekends and would probably have no rest days up to next month. And when I talk to him, he's always tired. Maybe I'll just focus more on myself this time and some better things I can do with my time. Thank you! 🙂