Nothing is ever right
My fiancè is away at trucking school. We just got into because I've stated that I was lonely last week and he responded it was no fault of his. Today the argument revolves around how this week we've barely talked. If we do have a conversation he is always talking to someone in the background. I'm been supportive and understanding through all of this but once I feel something it's a problem. I don't have friends because at some point they've shown their true colors. My family is the same way. He's all I've had for a while, he claims he thinks I'll leave because of this new profession but I feel like that's what he wants. I can't get him to understand anything I try to express. To him he can't do anything but talk to me and be bored and lonely, but what have I been doing all this time? Idk what to do. It makes me feel so bad I'm trying and he doesn't see it. It's like I'm just a nag when all I want is some time, it's not just me the children miss him too. I'm lost and feel like everything is crumbling around me. Makes me feel meaningless like nothing I do is ever right. And it upsets me so ,such I feel like I'm passing these feelings on to the children. I just want to feel like I'm cared about.
@MelancholyJ90 // It sounds like your frustrated with him. I was going to say that you should talk to him, but seeing as yoiu have already done that....... I think we need a Plan-B. Maybe you need to see this from HIS perspective—he shouldn't have to give up his education and/or career for you. Yes, he needs to set aside time for you and the kids, but asking him to give up a bunch of things for that to happen just isn't fair to him.
You need to understand that you can't just rely on him for everything—you need to fill your cup with other things in life..... things like activities, trying something new, hanging with friends, and meeting new people. I promise you that if you do those things that you will feel less lonely.
Aside from that, I think that you should try talking to him one more time, but this time try hearing things from his perspective.
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@CherryBlossom360 ok I'll try that. I honestly didn't feel as if I was asking him to give up anything and maybe that was how he was taking it. I wasn't trying to make him choose just give us more time than he has been.