She's gone cold, what do I do

@Romanusinvictus

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

Last month I met a girl on a dating site. We really hit it off, I got her number and we texted everyday. (I would really be careful with this because things can get quite messy and misunderstanding can happen when you are texting her like this. This will cause her to lose attraction for you over time, and if not then she will get mad if you dont text her everyday) We eventually had 2 dates that went well. The 2nd date I took her to the theatre as she likes going there. (What about to something you also like to do for fun?) After 2nd date she texts me saying she had a lot of fun and started getting a little flirty, even asking when I would kiss her (I planned NYE as that was just a few days later). (I can tell she is basically saying shes ready to be kissed at any time from you, so this is a sign she really likes you. If you dont take this step then she will think you dont like her and wont see you as confident)

Soon after she tells me she isn't sure what she wants. (There's a lot of texting between you two, you might be trying to please her too much, and the attraction is trying to fade. I do think not going for the kiss after the dates might be one the reasons she is saying those things) I think it's due to still being hurt from previous relationship. She then went cold. (It's important to notice her behavior at this point, reaching out after this will only make her back away even more) We had no contact for a few days until I initiated a small conversation but she was a little distant. (I understand that you perhaps fear losing her or that its all over, but initiating contact with someone who is backing away will only make that person feel smothered) A few days later she initiates a small convo but becomes a little distant again. (There's too much texting at this point...its important to make plans when she starts reaching out without having a texting conversation thats going no where) Then today I messaged her about her Insta post and I said I liked that song too. (The anxiety is leading you to do this, its becoming hard to soothe yourself, and then you are doing whatever it takes to reduce those feelings without paying attention how its affecting the other person) She left me on read but 30 minutes later liked the message but didn't reply. (She is feeling trapped and smothered at this point. You are trying to gain her attention at any cost because unconciously it feels like shes abandoning you, and your way of receiving love perhaps it was to gain the other person attention)

I had planned to send a message today asking for clarity and whether I should wait for her and give her space or move on. I'll put it in comments actually so you can see.

"Hey........ hope you're good:) I'm reaching out as I'm confused about what's going on and need some clarity. Things have suddenly changed, especially since the other week when you said you weren't sure what you wanted right now. I know you've been busy, but we don't talk as much as we did when we first met. I've been giving you space the past week as it seems like you're dealing with personal stuff and I don't want to bother you or make things worse. But I do want to know what I should do right now. I'll give you more space and when you're ready just let me know" (This message sounds really sweet and caring, but this message is pretty much design to gain some sort of reaction out of her. I would not send her this kind of message because its showing how overly invested you are for someone you have gone to two dates...you are projecting unmet needs on her. You have a lot of value, if someone backs away or loses interest then its a bad idea to pursue them)

Is she cold for good. (She will be if you sent her that text) Have I lost her. (Im really concern about you when you say this. I understand shes amazing to you and you like her, but you are over investing into someone you barely even know. We dont know if she can attach to others or how she truly is as a person or even if she can handle closeness. Take your time...) Does she just need more space and do I still have a shot?she is a very attractive girl and can easily find someone else. (This tells me you dont think highly of yourself, and esentially you are putting her higher than you. Its like i mentioned you have value and you can also find an attractive girl)