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Should I stay or should I go?

User Profile: Edmcoastal1985
Edmcoastal1985 November 20th, 2019

Im having a lot of trouble in my relationship lately. Im try it to figure out if I should stay or go. Im deeply in love with my boyfriend, however, I feel that I put in significantly more of an effort than he does. Im divorced with no kids and he is currently still dealing with his divorce as well as custody and other financial issues. He claims hes happy but he just seems miserable lately and unmotivated. I think hes extremely overwhelmed having to deal with fighting his ex for time with his kids. I havent met them yet either which is another stressor. Ive caught him lying a couple times about saying he was one place but really just sitting in his car etc and taking alone time. Normally this wouldnt bother me but because he had to lie to me, it hurts my feelings and makes me rethink a lot of our relationship. I find myself crying to myself daily about whether this is worth it and whether I can trust him. Im so conflicted because we do have a great time together for the most part but I also just feel stressed and slightly financially burdened as well. Added on to all of this, my family hates that Im with him because he has children and they know o want my own, they dont think he will be able to provide me with the life they feel I deserve.

I feel so lost, I want to run away and also be with him all the time. Just trying to figure out if I should stay or go?...

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User Profile: dafer96
dafer96 November 21st, 2019

@Edmcoastal1985 Hey, thanks for sharing your story. Seems like he has a lot in his head, specially for the custody you talk about. Try to let him know that you are there for him, maybe he just needs someone to talk about all this stuff and he doesn't have one. You need to think about yourself too, if this person is going to make you happy or ir he will just stay sad because of his divorce. Either way, you need to think about your future too. Best of luck.