Stuck on life

My advice would be to let things go. You want to go on this trip, yet you feel losing your connection with this girl. This may sound a little rough, but if your connection cannot survive 15 days, there wasn’t much to save from the beginning.

from your message, you seem like a sweet and caring guy. You want to be present and show how you truly feel. That is a freaking amazing kind of person to be! Please don’t let this situation take away that part of you, because it’s part of what makes you who you are… it goes beyond this one girl. That magic comes from inside of you, not her.

she seems confused, and confused people are the hardest to be around, especially when you care so much. They don’t know what their own intentions are, so they tend to take unless you put on limits. You said it yourself, you’re tired. All we can do in life is give our best. It sounds like you have, you’ve shown her your love. But if she doesn’t want it, nothing you will do can remedy that.

this time away will do you so much good! Go, have fun and make memories with your mates! Laugh drink enjoy your surroundings! Enjoy your life. If it is meant to be, maybe this time away will give her time to reflect.

We have this expression in portuguese that goes “ if my presence does not make a difference, feel my absence”. How she reacts after this trip will be your answer, she will either have time to think and see if you are what she wants, or she will feel good without you there and realize she does not want to be with you once and for all. Either way you win.

the loving person that you are is you, not what she causes in you. People only give what they have, so if she is not giving you love it’s because she doesn’t have any to give. Love yourself as you love this girl, and be brave to do what is best for you. You tried to your limit to show her how you’ve felt, and at least you tried. Now you have to accept that whatever happens happens.

One last caveat, there is this phrase that goes “relationships are a dance between a fine line. How can I hold onto you without losing me, and how can you hold onto me without losing yourself”

you already stayed you’re tired, that this dynamic is sucking away all your happiness in peace. You are losing yourself to her, and a relationship where you lose yourself to hold onto someone else is not one that is good for you. Not judging you or her, just giving you things to consider.

give it a little time and see if she comes after you. If she does not, then you have your answer. Much love, and I hope you have a kickass trip that re-starts your journey with happiness!