Toxic break up
Yo what is up people. Gonna be judged for this but I need help tbh. For the past 10 years me and this girl have been on and off with each other. On in the first few years meant sleeping together and off meant not talking for months. Then as life went on and we went separate ways we never saw each other and on for us then meant random sexting sessions then again no talking for months. We always had such a special bond and always loved each other and was a thing that when one of us messaged the other, we'd always sext - even if in a relationship. We believed we were parted lovers just trying to make a course back to each other. Fast forward to this year and she messaged me only this time she didn't leave after two days. And we kept talking, and kept talking until eventually I find out she's getting married but we're still talking and then we talk about ending up together ourselves. It was the most intense 2 months of my life then this past Friday it ended. Will spare the unnecessary details but now it's all gone. There's a void inside me because I know this 10 year thing is gone. It's so stupid and toxic but I don't know what to do.
Hey bro ! It’s not an easy situation specially when it’s about a decade ... So here is what I think , you need to make a choice , if you don’t you will be stuck . When you can’t take a decision you start suffering ... It’s all about Making a choice. I won’t tell you what to do because at the end you make your own decisions . Consider these possibilities : 1- you stop everything and move on >> go on a solo trip or start meeting new people if you stay in your confort zone things get fu**’d up . 2 - if you want to have a relationship with her consider this ; she is getting married which means if she cheats on her futur husband she will probably do the same with you , plus a relationship is not only about s3x , it’s only a part of it. 3- you keep it casual and see what it’s going to happen . The key is to make a choice . Good luck