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User Profile: intellectualPlum5416
intellectualPlum5416 January 1st, 2022

Hi, I've had troubles going on with some of my relationships and I don't know if it's my fault. I got into a new relationship little over 2 months ago. Even though 2 months is very short, I start to worry he wants to leave. I feel I've put alot already in the relationship and it makes me question if I'm worth anyone's time or if people will leave and continue their lives fine without me. I've brought this up to him and he's not too keen on talking about emotions I've come to find out. I would normally go to a very close friend of mine about this but i unfortunately had to move and it's not the same. Sure, I've made new friends but the advice and comfort isn't the same. This close friend is the only one I like to go to to rant and vent things off (the only one I feel comfortable enough with) but it's hard when theyre going through things as well and self harming. I've stayed up recently late ruining my sleep schedule worrying about my friends, my relationship, whether or not I'm going to fail. It's been tough for me I should say. It's affected my eating habits and sleep habits for a few weeks now and I have this sick type feeling I'm going to lose something so important to me.

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User Profile: freshLight64
freshLight64 January 2nd, 2022

@intellectualPlum5416

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. I see you go through a lot of fears about the relationship, and it's making you feel worried about how things might go. One of the most scary and overwhelming feelings to go through is feeling like the other person might leave, especially when it takes over your thoughts. As children, if we felt neglected, abandoned and mistreated (and other feelings) then it's going to create a fear of abandonment inside of us. Those feelings will come up in your adult relationships, the past will take over the present and it'll be rough to soothe those feelings.

"if I'm worth anyone's time or if people will leave and continue their lives fine without me." Sorry you have to go through this, it's a horrible feeling to experience throughout the day. You are worth someone time, and deserve to be loved and respected.