difficultly with my exboyfriend
we dated for 2.5 years from January 2017 to June 2019. we move from Las Vegas to Los Angeles for new opportunities. we experienced so many insecurities and growths. he always had back up girls when he was in his past relationships. i though he wouldnt do that with me.
in June 2019, we lived together, he cause a scene field by jealousy one night and embarrassed me. he was verbally abusive and yelled at me. i broke up with him that same week. i couldnt kick him out of where we lived because i still cared about him. he later found a place in December.
we talked everyday and hang out often. he was talking to other girls. nothing serious but potential relationships i guess. i then find out two days ago hes moving back to Vegas and is dating someone new. he told me he loved me from the time he moved out till April. he said he would fight for us and give me time. now May and he has someone new without even talking to me about it. he completely cut me off. i feel lied to.
my thoughts are clouded and all i can feel is sadness and betrayal. i think i shouldnt feel this way because i broke up with him and told him to give me space. i feel like he kept wanting to make it work with me until he found someone who wanted him first. i need clarity or do i have justification on how i feel. i just want to move on but the last two days have been so rough on me.
@castyourshadow
I am so sorry for what you are going through!
2.5 years of dating means a huge lot of deal. It means alot of committment and alot of time spent for each other. I respect you! However, I have gone to understand that usually when a guy cheats on you, or has side friends, or backups, they usually tend to happen later on as well. It's a reoccuring type of thing. They never change. It sucks when you stay loyal and he isn't showing the same energy back.
Being verbally abusive is such a wrongdoing. Not only is he your boyfriend but publicly? Off to the streets. I can see how much of an awesome human being you are. I can tell you're heartbroken but letting him in your place even though you guys broke up? Huge respect.
You are right for feeling this way. This sense of betrayal...he's leading you on. All you've given him is love and respect and all he has done is crush your heart like it's a coconut, and tell you 'I love you' when he's seeing someone else and with a different girl. That's just so disrespectful. You have every right to think this way. He made you believe that this can work out again and is now proving it wrong. I understand how rough it has been, I am cheering you on from here to make it through these tough days.
I may not have gone as extreme measures as you have, but I understand what you are going through. It is right to think this way and I understand how hurt you can be. He is trash. Not even one moment worth your time.
You are beautiful. You are perfect in every way possible. and he treats you like this, unacceptable.
These things will heal with time. The past few days and the next week or so may be tough for you but you'll get through with this. You always have me to talk to as well <3
@lifegivesulemons
thank you for your kind words and affirmations. it's something i have never gone through and it's difficult to manage. but like you said i will get through it. it just sucks right now! being betrayed by someone i thought i could trust is heartbreaking. for me, willing to trust again is a huge unforeseen step that i needed time with but i got hurt. it's a big confusing situation but i will see my way out of this eventually. thank you
@castyourshadow
When it's something that was really close to you and you were heartbroken for, it's normal to go through things like these. I understand and feel you! Because of things like these, even now I can't trust as many people romantically because I don't want to go through pain.
Sometimes it helps to cry it out. Scream. Exercise (I go on rage runs where I listen to my heartbreak playlist and cry while I run). Journal. Talk to a friend. Yell Karaoke. Whatever it takes, you WILL get through this. Love you <3