i feel lost but he feels like home
hello 7 cups. i'm new, been struggling lately, idk if it's in my head or if i'm onto something. super long story short my high school sweet heart and i got engaged in december of 2018. august of 2019 marked 6 years together. we had a lot of rough patches throughout high school but we survived them always seeming to come out stronger than before. we have an apartment together for the time being until we find/buy a house. he works out of state (long distance i know. ugh.) but we make it work. he's gone for work for about 1-2 months at a time and will come home for about 1 week. he works long hours (18 a day infact). and i hold two jobs as well. we make time to talk to each other but here lately it feels more as if i'm talking to a brother rather than my fiancé. distance is hard. very hard. but we always end the nights with an i love you no matter what. when he comes home things are good the first couple of days. we normally have the very first day he's home alone and then after that his friend stays with us for the remainder of his time off. i don't have a problem with a friend or him being present because i enjoy all the company. but i would like to have more alone time with my man than just one day out of the one week we get out of two months. he doesn't seem as interested in the "bedroom activity" as before. it's always the same routine we no longer spice it up or change anything like old times. when i try to mention anything about us being engaged or trying to mention the wedding he changes the topic and just says he wants to take things easy. but we've been engaged for almost a year and haven't said one word about any of it per him. he hasn't called me pretty, beautiful, etc. in over 7 months...(yes men, us ladies keep track of these little things because they mean more to us then you will ever know). he's not a very spoken emotional person. he does/shows feelings through actions or gestures. he is one to know what he wants and will not stick around if he doesn't want it. which is good reassurance for our relationship because if he didn't want to be with me he would obviously leave. i know he loves me and cares about me. i just don't know what to do anymore. things are changing and i don't know why and i don't like it. but i need help/opinions/tips/advice/experience...something........anything..thanks in advance :(
@braveheart4
A seed, it only grows when it gets buried under the ground. It is a fairly common anecdote that people give for support and courage. But do you know about plants, miss. There are plants that give fruit or vegetable under the ground and there are plants that give the same, above the ground. The plants that are grown for their roots, meaning for their produce below ground, have bitter shoots which is the part that is above ground. And the plant that has bitter roots, has sweet shoots. Roots apply for past, or the inside, that is hidden and below ground. And shoots refer to the present or the outside, that the eye can see. During harvest, a plant that is grown for roots, is uprooted and taken out from the ground while the roots are cut away and the produce is gathered. While a plant that is grown for shoot, is sometimes picked or sometimes cut down, but it is never uprooted and it stays there, always. It grows again and gives its fruit for another season, while root plant is replanted from new roots again and then uprooted next season again and again. You are a shoot plant, miss.
Do you know that when plants and forests stand in peacefulness then sometimes a storm comes and destroys the forests or fields. Sometimes predator insects attack fields and everything is destroyed and there is no hoppe left. But look closely, miss, there is so much life out of this improper destruction. The insects carry the pollen with them, even the predators, and then cause the plants to grow in other places as well, where there were no such plants. Exotic plants are sometimes carried by storms over oceans, their pollen is carried by the strong wind currents and they land in distant continents and are directly responsible for exotic vegetation there. There is even life in this chaos, miss, and if God can carry these miniscule pollens over oceans safely and land them in new places and help them grow a new heaven there, then have faith that God will not leave you alone. We humans, with all our talks and ego and pride, are still nothing. We talk and work so much to do this and that, to earn food, clothes and a shelter. We always worry so much about these things and think that it is our duty and responsibility to do that. But it really is not in our hands, miss, it is God
@CrowSpectre
I'm curious, will you keep giving this same reply to everyone?
@Myosotis17
for those who need, yes. these are old posts, more than two months old, no onebothered answering. so if i respond to show a better path, am i wrong or are they wrong by asking for help even when no one wants to