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User Profile: unknown1947
unknown1947 August 30th, 2022

this story is probably way different from others but i just wanted to see if i can get anyones advice or opinions on my situation. i will try to explain, in detail, the best i can from the start. (this will be very long so if you like reading then this could be for u haha) okay so 2 years ago (during covid) my cousin asked me to play roblox with her and so i was kind of reluctant because to me the game seemed stupid but eventually i downloaded it to play with her. i thought it was really only for kids but i noticed that there were so many different kinds of games that anyone could play it. anyway tho, i got roblox to play just with her but i started actually liking it so i started playing it by myself too. one day when i got on i decided to join a driving game because those were always my favorite types of games. i played for a while with other random ppl in the server and eventually this one person joined. i didn’t know who he was but it started off as us racing each other. i think we started a conversation just by asking each other if we wanted to do a different race or maybe it was because we were both being really competitive. he was really funny in the chat and had a great sense of humor. i noticed there was something different about him and i just loved his humor. that night we ended up playing until like 2/3 in the morning. i texted him after the game (which i usually wouldn’t do but i rlly did take a liking to him). i found out he had a girlfriend irl but i thought nothing of it because it’s not like i know him irl or anything. as the days would go on i would continue playing with him and join his games sometimes. eventually i found myself getting on literally to see if he was playing. now, this one time we were playing and i found out that him and his girlfriend were taking a break for whatever reasons. after that we decided to play a different game together and somehow it lead to me telling him i kinda liked him (again ik it may be stupid bc it’s someone i’ve never even met or anything). i was so scared to see how he’d respond. i thought he was gonna block me or delete me or something or simply think it was dumb to like someone i’ve never met. he responded really well and said he liked me a little too but said him and his girlfriend were most likely going to get back together, which i totally understood. i would never get in the way of a relationship and so after that i still kept it friendly. like i expected, he let me know they got back together. we still played together but kept it all friendly ofc. weeks went by and we were still playing together occasionally (also, i never thought anything of him and his gf bc i knew i had no chance since i’ve never met him or anything) but after those weeks passed, i did end up getting his number. around this time he had told me that he wasn’t with his girlfriend anymore. he opened up about that over text and the more we played, the more we would talk about new and different things. we started texting a lot more too. we even became flirty at times. i knew what he looked liked and he knew what i looked like too. after texting a ton we started sending voice messages (really only because he wanted to call and i wasn’t comfortable with that since i don’t really have my own space/my own room) but he actually respected that and we kept it at voice messages. i started to really really like him and i knew he could tell (even tho i tried to hide it). fast forward to when he actually asked me to be his girlfriend. before this happened we talked about being in a relationship and seeing if we could make it work and after long conversations we agreed to give it a try. we had so many heart to heart conversations, funny conversations, and serious ones. we got to the point where we said i love you to each other and stood up really late just playing roblox together having a good time. a year passed and in 2021 we were still together. there were times i was worried it wouldn’t work (bc of the distance and everything) but as each day passed he really showed me that it’s possible. covid was a really lonely time for me and i absolutely loved having him. fast forward again, when school started up again for me, i made a friend- who now is my best friend. she was there for me since the beginning of the year and didn’t know about my relationship. so, i started talking to a boy in school. my friend knew about the boy in school (but again didn’t know about my online relationship). i knew it was wrong of me to talk to him and i really don’t know why i kept that going but i did. we were in the talking stage and almost had it go further but it didn’t work out. i still feel guilty for talking to him and almost having that going further knowing i was in a relationship. as school went on i only focused on my classes and not boys or anything because i was still in that relationship with the boy no one knew about. summer of 2022 came and i became even closer with ~online boy~. we were still together but this summer was different. we’ve been more open then ever with each other and i got him to open up which definitely made us closer. we’ve had long long conversations and exchanged pictures. so, i’ve finally made it to now. now, we are still together and closer then ever! now the thing is, we still can’t meet in person or anything since i’m not even old enough to figure that out yet anyway which i’m upset about but not too upset since we’re really making it work. i’ve also noticed him trying more (because he admitted that he’s bad with texting) but i definitely noticed a good change. my best friend doesn’t know about him at all still and i really don’t know if i should tell her or not. she’s pretty.. hardheaded.. and i feel like 1) if she knows i’ve been with him for 2 years and didn’t tell her she’ll be upset that i kept that from her and 2) she knows i was talking to that boy in school so she’ll probably also be upset with the fact that that almost went somewhere while i was literally in a relationship which is 100% reasonable because i know it was wrong. if i don’t tell her i feel like it’ll be a weight on my shoulder but i don’t even know how i would go about that conversation. (especially i’m not AT ALL good with confrontation). no one else knows about us being together and id love to tell people my story but i feel comfort keeping this to myself and i don’t know why. i truly do love him and i’m hopeful for the future because of him but i just wish i had someone to talk to about this/him. i’m really sorry if this story is confusing or all over the place but i just wanted to get it out there and maybe get opinions if someone was even willing to read all of that. if someone can respond , or even read this at all, i would be really thankful. i also tried to get in every detail because it’s been a story i’ve been waiting to share for a WHILE :’) lmk what u guys think <3

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User Profile: oneamongstyou285
oneamongstyou285 August 30th, 2022

Hey there..

First of all, You are truly a gem of a person to be able to admit that it was wrong on your part to talk to that other guy in school, we all make mistakes all that matters is how early we realise and how well we react to it. And the way you did it's praiseworthy 👏🏻 2ndly i wish you long & healthy relationship with your boyfriend which may eventually end up in marriage.. The love you find online is way more real than the one u myt find in social life.. simply bcz in your case you read his texts listened to his voice notes that helped you understand the kind of person he was before sharing pics and getting physically attracted to each other.. which most likely may have been the case with the other guy whom you talked to for some time.. (like maybe not completely but attraction must have had some bearing on you talking to him.. didn't it?)

I do hope that the two of you can somehow manage to meet each other after certain intervals of time coz face to face encounters make for uneraseable memories.. like maybe once in a month or two.. that's upto you.. i ain't even forcing it.. if he is in another city or so.. having to meet twice year may also be enough for you 2.. if the connection is really really good like magnetic.

3rdly, Probably you could have told you girl best friend abt that guy but i do realise there would have been more problems then.. i still remember when somehow due to stupid best friends the fact that me and my crush were in connect with each other online during the lockdown period, made it's way to almost everyone, they kinda took revenge on me for things i m working day in and day out to find out about.. So you see telling about your online relationships to your offline frnds doesn't always bear good fruit.. some of the good ones advised me that she just pretends that you are the only one she talks to, or some were even like it's online it aint worth.. only when you go on dates offline it will work.. and like some were saying you are losing out on career due to this online thing you have with her.. From that day to up until this day i don't agree with one thing said abt our kinda relationship, nor do i buy any of their suggestions of offline dating and stuff being more real and worthy.. even though when some of those people betrayed and told the world abt the two of us talking.. it reached one of her cousin or maybe just a senior brother too.. eventually we had to cease talking as the next person cud have been from anyone's family, and we knew they won't support.. but back then i was childish even today i am.. so it was all so ugly.. even up until now.. the separation hasn't been Fully complete.. perhaps because of me being reluctant to give up just because the entire world has turned against me.. Possibly i cud just give up now and hope for things to get better in future when the two of us will be independent persons when our parents/frnds won't be able to influence our rel'ps.. but im too stubborn to do that...


Maybe i said a bit too much ig..

so yea let me head back to the point, if now you wish tell abt the guy i suggest you do that.. otw she may feel hurt.. maybe she will judge you for talking to 2 ppl at the same time.. but probably you can just convince her you were in relationship with neither.. i hope she will understand.. + for me you made quite a right decision by not telling anyone else abt your boyfriend.. To put it simply.. it's only because you didn't tell anyone else abt him, is the very reason you could make it work up until here.. but now that you both share an unbreakable bond .. it's finally time that you do inform you loved ones abt him.. they deserve to know that for least..


It felt nice to know your story. I would say it again you are a really really great person.

if at all you stay on 7cups when you inform you best friend abt your boyfriend..i would love to know the results of it all.. might help me too.


All the best🤝

One Amongst You ❤️

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User Profile: unknown1947
unknown1947 OP August 30th, 2022

hey! i want to thank you so much for reading my story and also responding, it means a lot. also i’m glad i got to hear your side of your story too. we talked about meeting not too far into the future so your right, hopefully i can. and i’m sorry for all the people that weren’t on your side or even wouldn’t hear u out fully but i think your amazing for not giving up. i’m sure there’s a lot in store for the future so although everyone’s not on your side, try to stay positive! your right about my friend though but that makes me feel kinda better about telling her when i get the chance. i also think it’s time and as hesitant as i’ve been i think it may be good to tell my family, friend or even both. thank you so much tho, your a great person as well and i hope you know that. lastly, i definitely would let you know how it went if i do! all the best to you too and thank you again for your thoughts and your story 🫶

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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 August 31st, 2022

Online relationships are getting more and more common ......but still many people think of all the bad things like catfishing etc and for some they do not see how much you can get to know and trust and care for someone through online chatting and sharing .........

People most likely will not be happy finding out after a couple of years of knowing someone..... whatever you decide be prepared for questions and judgement........as for talking to another person IRL it is not a big deal especially as unless specifically discussed with your online friend it was not a breach in trust..........

User Profile: unknown1947
unknown1947 OP April 6th, 2025

3 years later if anyone still sees this, i did end up telling my bestfriend actually 2 months ago and she was surprised but still supportive with everything and hearing me out. if they’re real friends they will stay 🥹 my boyfriend on the other hand is now my ex, he hasn’t been able to keep up with communication and because of that decided it’d be best to break it off. i still have a lot of respect for him and he’ll always be my first love. to the people who replied to this three years ago i have nothing but respect for you guys and ive changed sm since then 🫶