Breaking up..?
Me and my boyfriend have been arguing for a week, more than usual, after a major confrontation.
This morning he said that he may break up if it keeps going, I honestly wasn't feeling hopeful about the relationship so I took this as a chance to tell him how I feel. He said "no please" while I was like "we need to figure out what the [heck's] going on". He feels like the relationship's failing, but he doesn't want to lose me. Which is odd, and conflicting. I have a document with what we talked about, but I'm not sure if that's allowed on a form (someone tell me), so I'm not going to share it.
I need advice, because... I think it's time, but I don't want to feel the pain. I am also planning to talk to someone about it tonight along with him. She's a fellow 7 Cups listener, and she has talked to both of us before.
Thank you. I really appreciate it...this is super hard for me and him.
@justtio
Many people want to avoid the pain or the starting over and worried about finding someone new etc and the stay in bad relationships..... it is amazing what people can convince themselves of sometimes.......IMO sooner is better then later when ending a bad relationship. when he said he may break up if things do not change did he give what has to change ?
then to say he does not really want to lose you says to me he thought ..... what if she wants out or this really goes bad..... men are IMO often worse in not wanting to end something especially if they are getting most of their needs met. starting over or finding a new relationship is hard but IMO better then sticking with something always wishing they would change.
@toughTiger6481
You are correct... it is better to get it done than wait it out... I don't want to feel the pain though... he actually just sent me a message saying if he wants to... y'know continue or end it. I'm almost crying right now because I don't want to hurt him... it is what it is though.
Thanks for helping! :))