Breakup
my ex broke up with me around 1-2 weeks ago and now he’s already seeing a new girl? i saw his tweet about getting her number and it just hurts so badly. it hurts even more considering the fact he compared her with me even though i’ve told him multiple times i’m trying to stop comparing myself to others because it hurts my mental health. during our relationship he even told me that apparently she reminds him of me bc we had similar interests and look somewhat similar. basically she’s just like me but better in every way. and he keeps on texting me and it feels like im just getting strung along just for fun
Hey, I'm so sorry. Coping with a breakup is difficult, and seeing our ex move forward so fast can hurt us. I'm afraid that continuing to have him around and checking his social media won't help you and will only slow down your healing process. Clearly it is a situation that does not make you feel good, but it is our responsibility to get ourselves out of a situation that cannot bring us any benefit. Your relationship is over and now you need to focus on yourself, not on him and what he does without you. I know it is painful and difficult, but it is necessary for you to be well. Remember that you are not alone, you can connect with a listener if you need, we will be happy to listen and support you as best we can.
@whistemeral
I think this isn’t about someone wanting better, it’s about someone putting up a boundary in the best way they know how in order to have their needs met.
It’s important to understand, love and respect the choices of an individual for growing into a mature and kind person to bring more of that an individual truly deserves and needs into their own lives.
Karma baby!
Taking bubble baths, learning to eat a little healthier and journaling are just some of the many ways to practice increasing self esteem and therefore up-levelling boundaries and allowing the self to be the self and others to be themselves without co-dependency, blame or ineffectual relational patterns.
A little professional help could go a long way too! When a plumber is needed for unclogging deep blockages, it is not unreasonable to ask for help. Knowing and honouring your limits will again increase your self esteem and reinforce your boundaries.
Life is vast, eternal and friendly and only asks for our participation...winning is just the cherry on top of a lifetime of beauty, so don’t be afraid to try...or, if you are afraid, try anyway! Who knows...you may surprise yourself and find someone you didn’t expect - a new, more confident and capable you😄
thank you so much! the thing is that the guy was super toxic to me and after our breakup he even asked for my nudes while he likes another girl? and he won’t stop comparing my looks and personality to her and it sucks :/ should i just cut ties?
We are here for you during this time! Breakups are no picnic in the park or bowl of 🍒 🍒by ANY means, my goodness, good for you for getting through it so far. Have you tried the growth path? I recommend doing an exercise a day. Keep us updated too if you want. We won’t judge you 😀
@whistemeral
@whistemeral
Damn girl, I'm really sorry that happened. Please remember that you are 100% deserving of love ❤️ and a person that treats you like the absolute QUEEN 👑 you are. Definitely cut him off.
Yes cut ties completely, you don’t need this person in your life if he isn’t respecting you and he isn’t respecting others. You need to take care of yourself and distance yourself from this negativity so you can heal. Self love, hi five who you are!
