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Boost Self-Esteem Month: Looking Inward & Breaking the Comparison Trap
by Heather225
Last post
 September 4th
...See more Hello, lovelies, and happy Boost Self-Esteem Month! While we spend so much of this month talking about how we connect with others—our friends, our chosen family, our loved ones—there is one vital connection that lays the foundation for all the rest: our connection with ourselves. In today’s hyper-connected world, it's easy to accidentally outsource our self-worth. We measure our value in views/likes/shares i.e. the fleeting validation of social media. We scroll through our feeds, comparing our real-life behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s carefully filtered highlight reels. It is an exhausting habit and a fast track to feeling less than. And it's unfair! But here is the truth: Your worth is inherent. It does not fluctuate based on an algorithm or someone else's approval. This February, as part of Boost Self-Esteem Month, it's the opportune time to challenge ourselves to break the external validation habit. We are practicing the art of logging off, looking inward, and finding acceptance from within. Cultivating genuine self-esteem isn't about being perfect; it's about honoring your whole, authentic self without needing an audience to applaud it. Reflection Questions To help us shift our focus inward, take a moment to ponder these questions. We'd love for you to share your thoughts in the replies below! * If social media disappeared tomorrow and no one could ever see your accomplishments, appearance, or milestones... what internal quality would you value most about yourself? * What is one "highlight reel" trap you frequently fall into when scrolling, and what is a grounding, real-life truth you can tell yourself to escape it? ✋ The Inward Connection Pledge Awareness is the first step, but action is the second! We invite you to join us in making a gentle promise to yourself this month. Copy and paste the pledge below into your reply, filling in the blank with whatever works best for you! I pledge to recognize when the comparison trap is hurting my self-esteem. When I catch myself seeking external validation online, I commit to logging off and doing [insert one small act of self-care/self-love] to reconnect with my true self. Signed (with love + your name) ------------------------- I can't wait to read your reflections and see your pledges below! Remember: You are worthy of love, especially your own.  ------------------------- This post brought to you by February theme: The Heart of Connection [https://www.7cups.com/forum/projectsandevents/CommunityActivitiesEvents_1908/7CupsinFebruaryTheHeartofConnection_374480/]
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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd, 2024
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
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How I feel internally 😬🧿👁️
by polite2
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 September 10th
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Wake Up Polite
by polite2
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 September 10th
...See more https://youtu.be/XW0ThOShEzg?si=ehwpZkmO_RB_HdoY
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The Compliment You Didn’t Believe
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 August 7th
...See more Have you ever received a compliment that you couldn’t accept at the time? Maybe someone told you that you were kind, strong, funny, talented, or someone they appreciated… but a part of you immediately thought, “No, they’re wrong.” What’s a compliment you’ve gotten that stuck with you, even if you didn’t believe it at first? Sometimes other people see good things in us before we’re ready to see them ourselves. 💙
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Name one thing you worked really hard for, to be proud of yourself.
by WhimsicalKat88
Last post
 August 4th
...See more ✨️🌸"If you don't spend enough time getting to know yourself, you will end up absorbing everyone else's definition of you." 🌸✨️ Here is a reminder to name one thing good about yourself, that you worked really hard on, that goes unnoticed quite often by you.📝  I will go first- the ability to choose myself in dampening situations.  This is a safe space, let's keep this going...🤗
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If You Could Give Yourself a Break About One Thing…
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 July 30th
...See more What’s one thing you’re tired of being hard on yourself about? 
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The Virtue Workshop
by spacekeeper
Last post
 July 28th
...See more                   I spent some time creating a self-growth plan and I thought I'd share with you all. Tonight is Day one for me.  Three things I wish to gain: Confidence, Clarity, Emotional Stability.  Can anyone relate?  Do you have your own Journal Prompt you reflect one?  I would love to hear your thoughts and questions of the subject of GROWTH. - Happy Healing.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                bH ✦ Every soul is a sanctuary awaiting revelation. ✦ Be'ezrat Hashem, may we merit the Third Temple. Until then, I am rebuilding the Fourth Temple from within. A creation, creating with the Creator, intentionally. ⭕️✨🪞 ⭕️🫀 OPERATION EMERGENCE Operation Emergence | From Tzimtzum to Revelation. | Fourth Temple Rebuild Journal 9 Month Covenant | Start: July 28, 2026, | Completion: April 28, 2027 ✦ "Walk before Me with a whole heart, and when life places a choice before you, choose life." ✦ - AviMoshe aH Inspired by Abraham Avinu aH (Genesis 17:1) and Moshe Rabbeinu aH (Deuteronomy 30:19).   PURPOSE: To rebuild my Fourth Temple from the inside out through healing, discipline, wisdom, health, and meaningful relationships.   ⭕️ THE SUPERPOWER BLUEPRINT: Building My Human Temple Ñ      Throughout these nine months I intentionally strengthen the nine capacities that shape my character, my choices, and my future.   🕰️ Routine - Create consistency through daily habits. 🪥 Hygiene - Honor my body, mind, and environment with care. ❤️ Self Esteem - Know my worth and trust myself. 🗣️ Communication - Speak truth with compassion and listen with wisdom. 🧠 Intelligence - Pursue knowledge, wisdom, curiosity, and lifelong learning. 🛡️ Safety and Risk Management - Protect my peace through wise decisions, healthy boundaries, and thoughtful risk assessment. ⚖️ Morality and Social Responsibility - Live with integrity, justice, compassion, accountability, and service. 🌱 Adaptability and Growth - Remain resilient, teachable, flexible, and open to transformation. 🤝 Peer Selection and Social Discernment - Choose relationships that strengthen my Temple and reflect my values.   PHASE 1 ⭕️🫀 THE HOLY FOUNDATION Months 1 through 3 | Preparing the Sacred Ground July 28, 2026, through October 28, 2026 FOCUS: Relationship reset. Emotional healing. Self-trust. Identity beyond relationships. Peace. Stability.   MANTRAS: Tzimtzum I make space for healing. Teshuvah I return to my truest self. Ein Sof Endless light lives within me. Shefa I receive what nourishes my body and soul. Temple Practice Every act of healing becomes another stone in my foundation. Vegan Reset AM warm lemon water. Breakfast oats, chia, berries, or green smoothies. Lunch quinoa or brown rice with greens, beans, avocado, tahini. Snack fruit, nuts, hummus, and vegetables. Dinner soup, lentils, tofu or tempeh, roasted vegetables. Water and herbal tea. Avoid alcohol, excess sugar, fried foods, and ultra processed foods.   bH PHASE 2 🔺🧠 RAISING THE SANCTUARY Months 4 through 6 | Building Sacred Rhythm October 29, 2026, through January 28, 2027 Focus Health. Nutrition. Exercise. Sleep. Discipline. Integrity. Becoming someone I can depend on.   Mantras Gevurah Loving discipline protects my peace. Netzach I continue even when it is quiet. Yesod Every consistent habit strengthens my foundation. Temple Practice Every promise I keep becomes another beam of my sanctuary. Vegan Reset Steady vegan rhythm. Plant protein with every meal. Greens daily. Whole grains. Fermented food. Mindful hydration. Limit emotional eating and late-night snacking.   PHASE 3 ▪️🫁 OPENING THE GATES Months 7 through 9 | Living From the Sanctuary January 29, 2027, through April 28, 2027 Focus: Healthy friendships. Community. Purpose. Grounded relationships. Connection over rescue.   Mantras: Tiferet I bring beauty, balance, and compassion into connection. Malchut I embody my healing in the world. Temple Practice The Temple fulfills its purpose when its gates open with wisdom, love, and service. Vegan Reset Grounded vegan maintenance. Colorful whole foods. Soups. Salads. Legumes. Seeds. Herbs. Mindful portions. Social meals with healthy boundaries. Nourishment without punishment     FINAL REFLECTION | April 28, 2027 QUESTIONS: What did I learn? Who did I become? Which of my Nine Superpowers grew the most? What habits became sacred? How has my Fourth Temple changed my life? What kind of life am I building? DAILY COVENANT: Every thought is a stone. Every habit is a brick. Every meal is an offering. Every conversation is a doorway. Every relationship is a gate. Every choice is an act of construction. Today I strengthen my Nine Superpowers. Today I rebuild my Fourth Temple. ⭕️🫀 🔺🧠 ▪️🫁       🌸 "Begin again from the place inside you that no one can take away." 🌸 In memory of Madam Ludmir aH
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Worth It 🫧
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 June 30th
...See more Day 10~ A Kinder Way Forward “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~ Louise L. Hay Sometimes you just need to treat yourself with the softness you’ve been missing 💛
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Appreciate the small successes you give to yourself.
by WhimsicalKat88
Last post
 June 26th
...See more Self-esteem can be so multifaceted. For every individual out there, there are different interpretations of what contributes to their Self-esteem. But the most common thing among us- is that we are here. We are acknowledging that something does not feel right. We want to trust ourselves, we want that confidence. And let me tell you, to be able to acknowledge that, put yourself in that vulnerable position is a step closer to that trust you seek. Appreciate you being here, being proactive, take that win.
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Worth It 🫧
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 June 24th
...See more Day 9~  If I Wasn't Scared Sometimes confidence isn't about who you are... it's about who you would be if fear wasn't holding the steering wheel 💗 What's one thing you'd do if you weren't scared of being judged? It can be tiny, silly, serious. There's no wrong answer.  Because half the time, the things we are scared to do are the things that would make us feel most like ourselves 🫶🌟
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Worth It 🫧
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 June 23rd
...See more Day 8~ Things People Forget (but need to remember)1. "Being wanted" isn't the same as being valued. Value shows up in consistency, not convenience 💜✨2. Choosing yourself isn't selfish.It's how you stop abandoning your own needs 🪻💫3. Taking up space isn't a problem.Shrinking for other is 🟣🌙4. Love isn't proven by how much you tolerate.It's reflected in how safe you feel 🔮💟5. Attention feels good.But respect lasts longer 🟣🌟
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Worth It 🫧
by colorfulPanda8664
Last post
 June 17th
...See more Day 7 🪻~ Some of us learned to make ourselves smaller just to be accepted. Quieter. Softer. Less “too much.” But shrinking yourself isn’t love; it’s fear. The truth is... 💜You deserve to take up space. 💜You deserve to be fully seen. 💜You deserve people who don’t get scared of your light. What’s one part of you that deserves more space today?
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For anyone struggling with body-image
by GnomedBinary
Last post
 June 10th
...See more This song and beautiful animation makes me cry every time, I used to struggle with gender dysphoria as a teen and this video helped me through it. Now I hope it will do the same for someone else.
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