Am I a loser?
How do you get over it? What do I do when I feel like I can’t get anything right or that I will never be enough? While having no one else to talk to. When I can’t rely on the people that should make me feel safe and comfortable. When everything I do or say or like is constantly mocked or made fun of by my own family? How do I stop feeling like such an outcast?
@tabycat123
There is no one simple solution but i do think we do get over it and we find who and confidence in ourselves. i know when family is not always supportive or kind it is often not that you are a problem but maybe they want to keep you feeling that way as it give them some sort of superiority. learning to not take their criticism is a good start.... many people just need to find their strength and you may excel at something you have not tried yet.
hi @tabycat123
I used to feel this way but then I realised that certain people were actively trying to make me feel this way and I had to build up my self-esteem more or less out of spite
like, no f you, I am not letting you or anyone dictate how i feel about myself
I decided that there shall be no room in my mind for any kind of negative self-regard, ever, no exceptions
other people can say and think whatever they like and I'm not changing this for anyone
it feels very weird at first because it conflicts with the established core-belief that you are fundamentally broken, but it doesn't take too long for the new belief to take over if you're strict about it
you have to be your own champion and don't let anyone make you belief you are anything other than entirely worthy and deserving of good things