Gaslighting recovery and trying to Trust people
I went through severe conflicts and Gaslighting at my last job at the hand of my boss and team manager. I want to know how do I build back my self esteem, specially when I am hunting for job currently and recollect all those *** memories when asked leadership oriented questions.
I have subconsciously stated doubting everyone due to lies and rumors propogated about me in my previous job. Even in outside world, I constantly keep thinking about manipulation and deception and undue influence of others on me very regularly now.
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I think many have left bad jobs or jobs with some conflict. In searching for a new job I found treating each opportunity as a clean slate. do not look for conflict or issues but give each place/ person a chance until they prove to you they are not to be trusted or listened to.
Many times we are on high alert after in a bad situation we look for any sign and sometimes see small things as a sign that really are not. In my experience there is always one or two people at work that i will not mesh with and that is OK.
Appreciate the encouraging message.
I struggle with this, as well. My best guess at answers would be doing little things we know we can do to build self-trust and giving people little tasks or bits of info to see if they are trustworthy, and build from there. Also, self-compassion for what we went through and are going through. I admittedly struggle with this part.
Thanks folks for your support 🙏