Kink / fantasy not sure
I like to be a slave to white people. Is that a kink and can it be achieved?
@Bedo2025
I definitely would place it in the kink or fantasy category!
I don't think something that has brought misery and suffering and pain for hundred of years can or should be achieved!
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But can be achieved within kink categories. I feel even within the kink category, it’s hard to achieve.
@Bedo2025
I personally think it's not something many people would be comfortable with!
Yea agreed
@Bedo2025
not a self esteem issue… I’d place in a different forum regarding sexuality… thanks
@Bedo2025
It's not a matter of either/or because kink and fantasy tend to go together. My impression is that kink is the manifestation of fantasy.
Whether or not it can be achieved, my first thought is that it cannot be achieved safely.
It's interesting that you posted the question in a thread related to self-esteem.
Self-esteem has more to do with feelings of personal worth, integrity, empathy, and so on.
I do not believe there is an inherent link between self-esteem and fantasies. Self-esteem is based on our words, actions, and to a significant extent, our intentions.
Regardless of the thoughts, feelings and desires we experience, if we offer kindness and integrity to the world, we deserve to have self-esteem.
The fantasy may be related to some kind of "trauma bond," even if there is no conscious awareness of what might be the cause.
Might you be interested in exploring those thoughts with a therapist?
